The title may be a bit misleading actually. Let me start from the beginning. Caution - thar be religious issues here.
I'm 20, she's 19. She's the Catholic one. I'm pretty much agnostic (i.e. It just isn't really a part of my life). She seems fine with that. Known each other for over a year and we've been in a comfortable relationship since last Christmas. I'm actually her first ever boyfriend, apparently. No, I don't want to have sex with her right now (not that it wouldn't be, erm, nice, it's just that it would be inap... ah, I'll just stop right there). I respect the fact that she probably wouldn't ever be on board with pre-marital sex. Fine, I can live with that. Religion is a big part of her life - her parents brought her up pretty devout, and on the whole I think that she has a pretty healthy attitude about it all (i.e. she examines what she is told for herself and doesn't just take what priests say at face value).
So none of that is a problem. What might be a problem is what I just learned today... evidently this "no birth control" thing extends to married couples, too. If you ain't having a baby, it's a no-no. Even sex during pregnancy and menstruation is seen as non-kosher! Now, I certainly wouldn't classify myself as a sexual deviant or anything, but I think that sex is an important part of any healthy long lasting relationship - and seeing as how I think this planet is overcrowded enough already, I don't want to have as many kids as I have instances of sexual intercourse! We talked about it a bit today, and I was a bit surprised to find out that she subscribed to the "every sperm is sacred" mentality. I briefly wondered how she would have reacted to the shocking revelation that (gasp!) I've masturbated before. I didn't broach that subject. And... I reluctantly respect whatever beliefs she has on the matter. I guess.
We sort of ended things with an awkward, but lighthearted impasse. Why worry about it right now, anyhow? Not like we're getting married any time soon. She's a girl I'm starting to really feel strongly about, though. She's beautiful, smart, ambitious (medical school!), she's got a great sense of humor, and I feel like she brings out the best in me. This is the first girl I think I've ever thought that maybe I might have some sort of future with... maybe... But I just don't see being happy in a sexless relationship. Part of me feels bad for feeling that way - but it just seems like something fundamental would be missing there. And all because some Pope says so...
Sigh. Hope the Catholics aren't right about everything, because if they are, I'm certainly going to hell. Is this something that a compromise can ever be reached on? Should I continue talking about this awkward thing at this early stage, lest we find out later that it is a deal breaker? Or should I just forget about it and try tackling it when the relationship is stronger?