Originally Posted by
FloridaGirl1980
My boyfriend of 4 years and I have lived together for 2 years. His family and friends all love me and constantly ask him when he will marry me. He always tells them he will ask me when he feels compelled. Two nights ago he asked me to marry him while we were in bed. He handed me his moms ring fromvlike 20 years ago which is yellow gold and his birthstone. Not a well-planned proposal but was sweet and I said yes because I adore him. He is almost 31 and I am also 31. I was married before and that didn't work out so I can understand some fears he has but when he told me I cohldn't tell ANYONE not even his family I became concerned. He admitted he was freaked iut and that I should be happy we are secretly engaged. In two years we could talk about getting a ring for no more than $300 and it woukd have to be stainless steel not white gold. I don't even care about the ring. I just wanted to tell everyone! I was so excited... On the way to see some friends, he went on and on about buying a $6,000 watch for himself. Even though I got him a Rolex for Christmas.... So I wanted to say "how can you be looking at watches when you only entend to spend $300 or less on something as special as an engagement ring for me that i will wear for the rest of my lufe!?" but since I'm not allowed to talk about anything wedding or engagement related i kept quiet. I was brooding though. Our friends asked what was wrong and I said "nothing". Then he had the nerve to tell them "Im in the dog house because I didn't get her a ring." I was mortified! Then he added, "oh ya, I proposed to her but she's pissed so she's never getting a ring" and his friend said "maybe its her effing attitude" to which they all laughed. I got up and left. As I was leaving he yelled "I'll never marry you. You waited four years and this is the attitude I get?! Get your sh*t and get out of my house. I'll find my own ride home. Don't be there!!!" and they all had a nice laugh. Im still with him now but not allowed to mention marriage ever again. I'm finding it very difficult to even be in the same room with him today. I am so heart-broken.