I got back together with an ex this May and it went downhill. He never cheated, but was messaging girls inappropriately, constantly going to strip bars and pretty much ignoring me. During this time, I spent a lot of time with another guy where I was more emotionally attached than I was to my boyfriend so I seemed to cope. I can't pretend that I was a good girlfriend. I never cheated on him, but I did nag him and I did throw some nasty curses his way. I relied on him to be there for me because I had lost a lot of good friends this year because of a falling out. Looking back on it, I did seem rather needy and possessive.
One night, I was really sick and tried to call him. He turned his phone off, so I gave him no respect and dumped him via text message. It killed me because I loved him so much. Anyway, we stopped talking for about two months and I really started to accept how toxic the relationship was.
Last week, he sent me a love letter in the mail. It was unexpected yet I seemed to be wanting something from him like that. He admitted that he was wrong, and that he did love me. Basically, he apologized for everything. We talked for about it for four hours and he seemed as if he had changed. He asked for me back and I said that I will need to think about it.
HOWEVER, last week I found out that a very close relative of mine has been diagnosed with breast cancer. This last week my family and I have been dealing with it. Tonight, I messaged my ex asking if we could meet up and just talk. His response was, "No. I have planned to see my friends. You can't expect me to drop everything for you when something doesn't go your way in life." My response was, "I am really sorry to do this if youre out, but i need to say this. Denying someone your support that they have asked for when their relative is sick is a terrible thing. I do love you and hope you can see the error of your ways tonight. Please contact me if you wish to speak." No response.
Am I expecting to much? Or is this something where if someone did love you, they would try to be there for you? I just need an outside opinion who doesn't personally know me or the exboyfriend. I would really appreciate your help.