The one guy I had dated for 1 month, goes and messages me last night, saying "Hey", I didn't notice the message until today, and replied, and him and I talked a bit, sharing how each of us was doing, and I told him I was still talking to guys and dating on and off, but being screwed over by guys too basically getting hurt.
HIM: "I'm sorry. I didn't want to screw you over. You actually are a really sweet girl. And very cute."
HIM: "If you want to get out and see a movie or something, I'd still like to be your friend. Just let me know."
ME: "Why be friends, there's no point in that."
HIM: "Well, I'd love to do more, but I think I am missing something important. There's something about you that keeps me interested, but I feel like I need to make a change in my life before it can work."
ME: "What do you mean?"
HIM: "Once I get my situation and little more stable, then I won't have so much self doubt."
ME: "I don't get it. Your life is already set what more do you need or need to do to change it, I don't get it."
HIM: "I'm OK, but living paycheck to paycheck. I'm pretty close to changing that. But I still doubt everything. I have only myself to depend on. If I make a mistake, it really hurts. So I feel like I need to be extra cautious."
ME: "Well the doubtfulness needs to be changed and only you can change it. You and I can try dating again, and just date, like we did, I didn't see anything wrong when we dated and thought all was well."
HIM: "It was actually pretty good. But I have doubts about my life. I'm working on it, but like you say, only if can change it."
ME: "Then why can't you change while we date? Why does everything need to be set in stone, then go forth. Everything should have been that way, before you got onto the dating websites etc."
HIM: "I don't know. I'm very conflicted. Date me. I'll put the full effort into it."
So what does he mean exactly? I am so confused here.