I had an affair which lasted over 2 years. He kept asking me to leave my husband and I didn't so things ended in late June. Within a couple of weeks I realised I wanted to be with him and told him this but by this time he had met someone else - he assured me that it only started after we split but I am not sure on that.
Anyway I still told my husband and he and I had both being trying to make things work. However I still love the other man and have stopped trying to fight that so told him how I felt. I also told my husband and we are now separated.
I want to get the other man back but don't know whether I can or how. I feel as if the relationship he is in is on the rebound. I also know she is married though he has indicated that she may be separated - I am not sure on this because I know that they do not see each other at weekends, on her birthday, etc.
I know he still has feelings for me. We work together, get on extremely well, I know he finds me attractive, he flirts with me. He has also told me that he cares about me though has said that because I did not leave my husband sooner, it is too late. I strongly believe that if he was not with this other woman, then he and I may stand a chance. Being crude, I also know that this new woman is very overweight and rather ordinary whilst I am slim and I think more attractive. He has been very critical of overweight women in the past.
When we were together, he wanted to marry me and also let me have a key to his house so I could turn up whenever I wanted. He only took that key back in late June.
Do you think I can get him back? How should I do that? I know I have pictures of him and this new woman together which in theory I could send to her husband but I also think that is a low way of doing this. I actually want him to choose to be with me as that is more positive and healthy for a relationship to succeed.
Any advice would be appreciated.