Hi everyone. Last week I really upset someone a lot, with a bit of a cruel joke. We had been seeing each other for about 4 weeks, and I have to admit I quite enjoyed that time.
The prank wasn't meant to cause any lasting bad feelings, but I clearly misjudged it.. lol
The thing is, I'm not entirely sure I "want her back". I have had a lot of doubts about her suitability, or how well matched we are. However, I DO want to see if I can settle the bad feelings that have been created.
She hasn't spoken to me since, and might actually never do again. At her heat-of-the-moment request, I have ceased all contact.
Basically I caused there to exist a lot of sadness and anger in her, so I want to give her some opposite feelings now. I was considering having flowers sent, anonymously of course, to her each day at work this week. She probably wouldn't really think they're from me at first, since we weren't really that close and perhaps she isn't thinking about what I did much by now. But hopefully getting flowers at work would make her feel pretty special, right? I know you don't know her, but, if you got such a delivery wouldn't it just make your day?
BUT, that would be quite a romantic gesture, I suppose, and she might get too strong a message from it? Like I said, I want to just stop her feeling upset and annoyed by it all, or at least offer some happiness to cover it up. Ideally I could do that, then in a few weeks we could meet to round things off one way or another.
My feelings on the matter of me+her are far too varying and changeable for me to do anything more specific at this stage.
More info: She really liked me, a lot. I reckon she'd be open to forgiving me if I could credibly say that I regret it. Right now I can't say that, unfortunately.
Her friends did not like me, and apparently right from the start they had warned her off me (quite why, I have NO ****ing idea, they didn't know me at all :/ ). One of her friends spoke to me since, and she seems cool about it generally. But basically it's not just that I've pushed her away, but that I've pushed her away INTO the pulling arms of her friends.
Any input would be welcome
Thanks