Friendly or more??

[purplerose86]

Hello, i really need some male opinons. A few months ago this guy has started saying hello everytime i see him in passing and also a couple of times has even grabbed my attention by calling out to me and then saying hi.

But i'm kind of confused as most of the time he seems pretty happy just to say hello and not move forward. So i dont know if he's saying hello due to the fact he's just friendly (he seems to chat to alot of people) or whether he is actually interested. I dont know if i'm seeing more than there is because i'm interested.

So what do you guys think?

[Venacava]

Maybe he just likes you as a friend, if he's friendly by nature as you say - then if he liked you more I don't understand why he wouldn't pursue anything further than a "hello". Why don't YOU try talking to him? You never know,I could be way off and maybe he's shy when it comes to girls.

[vashti]

Maybe he just likes you as a friend, if he's friendly by nature as you say - then if he liked you more I don't understand why he wouldn't pursue anything further than a "hello". Why don't YOU try talking to him? You never know,I could be way off and maybe he's shy when it comes to girls.

I agree with Venacava. He might not know how to transition into regular conversation with you, and if you don't do it, it might not happen.

[misombra]

what is up with the google ads in peoples' posts?

[vashti]

Annoying, isn't it?

[Khazard]

Well I personally ALWAYS say hello to girls ive had a crush on whenever i see them and always try to engage in to conversation. But thats just me.

[E-Hero Candyman]

If he said hello for no apparent reason, I would assume that he likes you.

Has he said anything else? Talked to you about anything at all?

I really would prefer it if a girl would ask me out instead us guys "having: to do it. Dont take this as ask him out. Some guys may be fine talking out in a crowd but one on one for something a little more personal can be scary.

I suggest you just try talking to him for now. If you can find a time when he's not doing anything with anyone. And dont put him on the spot right away by asking if he likes you. If you just chat about whatever you can think of, it is likely he'll feel comfortable around you and may say something you may want to hear. Assuming of course, that you want him to ask you out.

If he doesnt say anything at the end of the conversation, and you get a good vibe off him and enjoyed the few minutes you spent together, Then you may have to say something like "maybe you'd like to hang out again sometime" and just play it by ear from there

[purplerose86]

Thanks for your opinions. I know that i should speak to him then i'll get a clearer idea of what hes thinking. But i'm useless at starting conversations, i know it wud b too forward to just ask him if it likes me.
A friend of mine suggested trying to ask about college and if i goes badly admit im rubbish at starting conversations but do you think this would freak him out??

[Mathias]

It's possible.

Just take the next step. Try to talk to him about something. If he seems eager, then there might be something there. If not, then you won't have to worry about it again.

[purplerose86]

Ok so we spoke somewhat, dunno if it really counts as it was work related. But now i'm even more confused. He basically mumbled something so i asked him if i could help but he needed to speak to a specific person so i couldnt, he then stood there for a few seconds and then he needed to get back to work and so did i so i said bye and he was silent for abit and then said bye as well.
But the whole time he didnt look at me directly and he seemed uncomfortable and distracted.

God i feel about 13 again.

[vashti]

If he is shy, OF COURSE he didn't look at you! If you want him, you will have to be more direct.

[derm]

He COULD be interested.

Saying hello is always a good start and if he's going out of his way to grab your attention he must be keen.

Try having a conversation that goes farther than simply two 'hello's'

How about a 'hello there'. Then work your way to a 'hello there how are you'?Then on to a 'hello there how are you today?' Progressing to a complete sentence and see how it goes

[purplerose86]

Hello
thank you all for your advice but the last time i saw him he completely blanked me and i havent seen him since even tho i used to see him all the time. So i give up as he obv. has. Ah well plenty more blokes out there.

[derm]

Hello
thank you all for your advice but the last time i saw him he completely blanked me and i havent seen him since even tho i used to see him all the time. So i give up as he obv. has. Ah well plenty more blokes out there.

Next time you blank him!........maybe if he thinks your not so keen, he'll get more interested. A bit of reverse psycology never goes a stray

If not, as you said, plenty more fish in the sea

[purplerose86]

Yeah i'll try it, see what happens i've got nothing to lose.