I have been dating my wife for 7 years, and married for 2 years now. After we got married she immediately got pregnant, and we have a 1yr old daughter. We are physically healthy in our mid twenties. Here’s a quick rundown of the events that lead to this. One year before we got married she got this crazy idea to not have sex anymore until the wedding date, a deal that she made with God. Okay so I had to deal with a year of no sex and a lot of porn. Wedding night comes and I completely decked out the room with rose pedals, candles, the works. “I’m tired” was her response that night. That was the beginning of this HELL I am in right now!!! A few months after we got back from our honeymoon and 4 sexual acts later (yeah you heard me, 4 times in three months) she tells me she’s expecting. This was a planned pregnancy so we were on cloud nine. For the whole nine months I didn’t even get a French kiss from her. I begged for sex, or head, or anything that she could do to help me, but she “didn’t feel beautiful” at the time and said it was her and not me. So I picked up the pieces of my dignity and pride and went back for more porn. After our daughter was born I thought YESSS!! But no, she still had and still has issues with her weight and there was nothing I could or can do to convince her that I think she is absolutely gorgeous I SWEAR I tried everything my female friends told me to do to romance her and make her feel beautiful and special to me and nothing. We have gone to marriage counseling and were told that basically I have a lot of resentment towards her so I gave up trying to romance her. Well I stopped romancing her because I’ve been so neglected and rejected for so many years that I just stopped trying. On her end the shrink told her how important sex is in a marriage, and all she could say is that I needed to romance her more! WTF?! Sex is a physical and biological NEED that we as humans have! We maybe have had sex 5 times in a year I’ve called her out on her crap reasons and told her I want a divorce. Im still young and can find someone who could tryuly love, want, need me, and has a REAL sexual appetite like me. I really don’t want to get a divorce because I am so attached to my daughter that I am afraid seeing her 3-4 times a week won’t be enough. There is absolutely no chemistry between us anymore and I don’t know what to do. Should we separate for a while? Any thoughts on this?