does it sound like I'm just being lead on? What do I do? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
You are trying to get back with a woman who still has the same problems that caused you to break up the first time. You asked her to quit drinking and to get counceling and she refused and found your request too restricting.
Give her up and don't contact her again. She's not willing to do the work on herself which would make her a better partner for you so why would you keep trying? That's just like continuing to put money into a bad investment that thus far hasn't built you a dime towards your retirement portfolio.... In otherwords, it's just a very stupid idea.
You also asked her to leave you alone if she wasn't going to work on herself (which was a good idea IMO) so don't be bloody surprised because she's not contacting you.
This relationship was not meant to be a life long partnership. If it was, she would work on herself and would strive to be with YOU.. Not decide to date and drink and remain with her issues. Accept that and move on. The sooner you lose all contact with her, the sooner you will heal. If you have children together then keep your contact to the subject of your child(ren) and completely ignore anything about the two of you unless the opening line is "I've booked myself into alcohol abuse programme and I am in Counceling."
Good luck.
Last edited by Wakeup; 12-08-11 at 10:59 PM.
Reason: typo
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion