Originally Posted by
frecklesinourIs
Her: Did you feel weird after not seeing me for so long? I did. I don't know what it is about us. We just seem to go right back to where we left off. I know that it will eventually happen! You'll see. Hopefully your girlfriend doesn't get too into the idea that you may marry her! It won't happen!
Him: yeah it felt a lil wierd. a small tiny part of me wanted to...umm...you know. but it wouldve been stupid to try and i knew that, so i didnt.
Her: It's ok, no offense, but I think I am hotter than your girlfriend! She is cute though. Oh well, we will figure things out. We always do. When are we going to go out and have some real fun?
Him: I dunno...
These are the main points of concern that I found in this conversation. One was that a part of him wanted to get in contact with the girl and second was that he was still undecided about meeting up.
Originally Posted by
frecklesinourIs
Her: Well then, I guess we go back to you suck!
Him: sorry...oh, and my girlfriend is beautiful!
The conversation continues with her asking him if she can console him, he ends up just cutting off the conversation. In which he tells me later that he deleted her off his myspace.
However, in your bfs defence he clearly defends you when his ex tried to make herself seem better looking than you and he did cut the conversation off and blocked her afterwards. So even though he committed an offence, in my mind I think he made up for it in the end. From what I can see, his ex is the one doing most of the offending.
Originally Posted by
frecklesinourIs
So my concern is because he said that a part of him wanted to do stuff... I confronted him about the whole thing.
He swore that the conversation was them just joking and it wasnt going to go beyond myspace... that he never planned on doing anything with her.
Well I guess the question comes back to you, how much do you trust him? Is this it for you? Is something like this enough for you to not trust him anymore? And in general, is your trust easily broken?
Originally Posted by
frecklesinourIs
A part of me wants to forgive him... wants to see where this could go. But another part of me... the part I usually listen to... says no. He is no good, and that he will just find craftier ways of cheating on me.
Forgiveness is a wonderful thing, it's a testament of a well developed and strong character. Being able to forgive (when forgiveness can be justified) means that we are strong in spirit and our love is abundant. It means we are not easily hurt by mistakes of others. It means we are not vengeful, or spiteful, or jealous, or suffering from low confidence / low self esteem.
How certain are you that after this event he will still go out and cheat on you? Given that he did committ an offence, yet did all in his power to make up for it.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~