Originally Posted by
lost_lad
so basically if you have followed any of the other posts you will get the jist of where im coming from...basically i brought up a child which was not my own for 4 and a half years, we split up and for a few weeks i was still able to see him and he would come and stay at my house at weekends, she has now cut me out of the child's life completely, as to 'avoid any unnecessary confusment ' i was thinking of writing him a letter so when he is old enough he can read it and know that i wasn't somebody who just walked out of his life without a care, could this backfire on me in anyway? or does any one have a reason as to why i should/shouldn't do it??
It is a bad idea. The child will already be in for a wild up-bringing because of the nature of his mother. The last thing he will need is some guy who he probably won't remember coming out of nowhere in order to find vindication. Your best bet is to focus on yourself and moving forward, because the longer you linger around with these thoughts, the longer this emotional destruction will be.
Have you confirmed if you have any rights as a guardian to him? And another thing to think about, is what kind of damage to the child could this letter do? Yes, you want to write it to help make yourself feel better, but will this have a negative effect on the recipient? Children are easily screwed up, and this one will likely have enough problems.
"All is fair in love and war." - Francis Edward Smedley