Making Headway

[Rosebud]

Well Since the last thread I had started about my relationship, I have been making headway little by little. I have been doing more things for myself and so far with positive results.

I'm in the process of reading several books I picked up. One of them being "His needs,Her needs" which is basically just how it sounds, but it has made me realize even more about how to please each other without sacrificing what is important to us as individuals. I also re read "men are from Mars and Woman are from Venus" which gave me more insight on why I react the way I do to something that is said and how to look at it differently. These books are helping me quite a bit to understand more of what I can do, and how I can lessen my feeling of being everwhelmed all the time because I give so much.

But all in all, I am slowly getting my Independence back which is helping my self-esteem and bringing him closer to me so to speak. He feels more attached to me than ever now for that reason and he's expressing those feelings to me openly.

Just thought I would give an update! And thank you all for your help!

[Tone]

Glad to hear, RoseB!

You're the LF sweetheart! Things BETTER go good for you, or else!!

[Rosebud]

Aww, thank you Tone! LOL, good to know your looking out!

[shh!]

Speaking of Independence, has she been around lately?

[Lloyd95]

RB- I don't even remember you having issues?

[Rosebud]

RB- I don't even remember you having issues?

Gee, maybe because you never read my threads and just made fun of them??? That could be why!

[Lloyd95]

Gee, maybe because you never read my threads and just made fun of them??? That could be why!

Oh yeah; then there's that.

[Junsui]

I'm glad things are getting better for you, RB!

[Rosebud]

Thank you Junsui! Me too! I think it's funny, he's trying to demand affection more now because I don't go out of my way like normal. Not saying I ahve stopped but just that I am doing things for myself as well and telling him I'm too busy when he asks for something... I never realzied how far that could go.

[whaywardj]

I'm very pleased for you. Stay that course.

[Rosebud]

I'm trying... I'm learning so much that I just feel like I have this better understanding of a lot now and I can see so much clearer, but trust me this is just the beginning.

[indigosoul]

That's excellent, RB! Thanks for the update; its nice to hear good stuff like this.

[boobaa]

Stop reading those stupid things or you end up lonely analizing every situation, every person, everything, just like me. **** it.

[Rosebud]

Stop reading those stupid things or you end up lonely analizing every situation, every person, everything, just like me. **** it.

Well I'm sorry you feel that way. I guess you missed the part when I said this has helped my relationship. I don't read books to tell me every little detail about every other person. I read them to expand my thought process and not have tunnel vision when something happens. I guess if you find the right books and read them for what they are (knowledge) you may find them very helpful in your every day life. I have been an analytical thinker for a very long time, I love studying people and their actions which is why I love psychology so much.

Thank you Indigo, It's unbelievable how better how I feel about all this.

[independent]

That's awesome, Rosebud!! I'm so glad to hear things are moving in such a positive direction with it all

Speaking of Independence, has she been around lately?

I'm here

I had a really busy work week... and have been spending my spare time putting up the tree & doing some shopping. Fun! (but I gotta admit I missed you guys!)