I need some pointers or maybe a team of mystery solvers. I have a thick skin and can take a certain amount of shit but I am in a first date slump! I have these amazing dates with men who are ready for relationships then right after I hear the same thing, I'm beautiful but they didn't feel a spark and don't want a second date.
For example, the other night I had a wonderful date with a great guy. I suggested a more sporty type restaurant for dinner and to watch the game since he's a sports writer. We talked and laughed for about 5 hours, i even sat on the same side of the booth with him to watch the game, he held my hand, called me baby, snuck kisses every 2 seconds, he even showed me photos of his friends and family on his phone. He drives me back to my car, we have a few nice kisses then that night i get a text message from him saying, you're beautiful but I didn't feel a spark the way i did when speaking to you on the phone. Mind you, I have been talking on the phone with this guy and texting him for 2 weeks straight, he even sent me his articles to read.
I don't understand it. I'm in college, have great confidence, I compliment the man, ask him questions, make him laugh, in my mind or any other normal persons mind, those signals and that body language clearly indicates a second date. Even if the date was just fine, maybe like at 75% he said he agrees there should be a second date.
This is the 3rd time it's happened to me with 3 different guys. I need some pointers how to be intriguing enough to make them want to learn more or maybe someone to tell me that I clearly am dating whackadoos and it's just a coincidence it was 3 in a row.