Originally Posted by
Yggdrasil
Why don't you ask her? 80% of a relation is communication.
Communication consists of more than talking and listening. It's also body language and asking questions if you're not sure you understand someone properly.
So why don't you just say: I don't understand what you mean by that. Sometimes I am being confused by what you say and I can't figure out if you are joking or being serious. Can you help me out here? I don't know how to take or understand this.
You simply say: I believe you are misunderstanding me, ... then you explain your actual intention(s).
Dude, don't take this the wrong way but, you're in a relation for 3 years and you don't know how to properly communicate with your partner?
What the hell have you guys been doing the past 3 years? Relations are work, lots of work. I think it's time you start working on your relation.
I suggest taking lessons in effective communication. I believe that may be more of a problem than anything else in your relation.
There are counselors who will gladly take the both of you in to teach you those skills. Most counselors do this for free.
What do you think? Do I have a point here?