A Nervous wreck...Thats me what do I do ?

[catman]

My girlfriend ended our relationship one fine morning after I did something that made her sick, it was a mistake on my part which diverted into other trivial issues of our life and everything was blown out of proportion.I begged and pleaded for forgiveness but she would not budge at all, in fact on three separate occasions she got great pleasure in humiliating me in front of all our friends which gave them a very bad impression about me. I was shattered as I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.I got depression avoided all females and concentrated on my work but kept thinking about her from time to time wondering what was the unforgivable crime that I had committed !I lost all touch with her during this period.In the end I was at the receiving end of her huge temper something I hadn't seen at all before which scared me to death. I dreaded meeting her anywhere after this and avoided all our regular spots..fearing I would she I would see on her face (You are sick and I hate your guts just get outta my face, and listen to her voice full voice. Her temper gave me nightmares and sleepless nights. Now after 3 LONG years I've met the same girl on the road smiling at me as if I was her GOD.I could not comprehend her behaviour so I just walked away. It was the saddest day of my life, the girl whom I thought hated my guts was smiling at me as if I was her GOD ( I cross my heart I'm not lying)
Some of my friends tell me girls are just like this They change their minds.
Some want me to be her friend but move on and don't trust her
Some say where is the guarantee she won't change her mind once again ?
Some want me to forget and forgive and patch up !
Some say I should try to find out what is bothering her
I get moods swings in which I'm very happy one moment and make plans to visit her with flowers etc and the next moment I ask myself,Am I her dog ? She treated me worse than a stray dog three years ago !!!
Is it worthwhile being a friend with such a girl ?
I'm totally lost my head pains my back pains I've lost my smile,my self confidence, her huge awesome smile haunts me, get irritated for nothing,and at time want to treat her the same way she treated me in front of my friends ?
WHAT DO I DO ?

[Charlie Boy II]

And you never found out what set her off in the first place?

[catman]

And you never found out what set her off in the first place?

What has what u wrote got to do with my problem in the first . please read my post I've been as precise as possible in the dispute with her without going into the nitty gritty details and pal what should I do ? ???

[Charlie Boy II]

pal what should I do ? ???

I'll tell you what you should do: you should shelve that snarky attitude or f-ck off "pal".

I would've thought what you did to offend her so badly in the first place is pretty central to the whole story, if not the key to your whole problem. So what was it? Did she catch you wanking over gay porn or something?

[vashti]

I agree with Charlieboy. You need to divulge the "nitty gritty details" if you want any serious help. It's the only way we can guage how mad she likely is as you.

[catman]

I'll tell you what you should do: you should shelve that snarky attitude or f-ck off "pal".

I would've thought what you did to offend her so badly in the first place is pretty central to the whole story, if not the key to your whole problem. So what was it? Did she catch you wanking over gay porn or something?

I did something which in her book was worse that adultery if there is anything like this around...OK and she dumped in a second. I had to accept her decision, what can a guy do when he walks up to his outraged gf and it told to fu k off thrice in front of all his friends? That was three long years ago and today I've met her smiling at me as if I was her GOD ..so why this sudden change in her behaviour towards me, what has changed from 3 years ago ?
Pal means friend according to me, and being rude to people willing to help me is not part of my upbringing profanity has no place in my life, and no I'm not gay so relax ....
pal what should I do ? ???

I never meant to be rude but if i have upset any of you I apologise

I agree with Charlieboy. You need to divulge the "nitty gritty details" if you want any serious help. It's the only way we can guage how mad she likely is as you.

vasthi, she used to be be mad at me 3 years ago or should I say disgusted would be the appropriate word today I saw her smiling at me as if I was her God.I came here being given to understand there are great counsellors here for some advice, help consoling as her behaviour has left me totally confused but instead I'm being trashed right left and centre

[vashti]

You aren't being trashed right, left, and center. You are being deliberately vague, and I am not sure why. Because you seem to be unwilling to spill the beans, I am not sure how we can help you. However, if she really was smiling at you like you were "god" (which is obviously an exaggeration), I would say it is possible she simply forgot momentarily whatever it was you did three years ago.

[catman]

However, if she really was smiling at you like you were "god" (which is obviously an exaggeration), I would say it is possible she simply forgot momentarily whatever it was you did three years ago.[/QUOTE]

I did not mean God in the literal sense maybe I meant (Her God) or ..lets say she was looking, gazing staring at me with such..... adoration Lets assume for this conversation that she caught me with my pants down with a another women and she booted me out of her life in a flash.I pleaded and begged for forgiveness to no avail.After this my career went downhill,my health kept failing and I had to be treated for depression.and lost all interest in previously pleasurable activities etc etc I blamed myself for my predicament picked up the pieces and barely managed to move on .Now after 3 long years I've met her again rather unexpectedly on the road with a huge awesome smile on her face which hit me like a bucket of cold water being thrown on my face, I froze like a statue and was unable to recognise this face at all, those 10 seconds felt like 10 hours.So I ask her, Who are you ? with a confused expression on my face..she felt HURT and her smile vanished her shoulders dropped as I had failed to recognise her at all, and she started to shake her head from left to right in disbelief as if to say You don't know me ? You don't know me ? I said sorry I don't know who you are.... please tell me who you are ??? She just kept staring at me and slowly started getting totally RED in the face... that was when I finally recognised her. I felt as if someone had kicked my in the head that how frightened I was on seeing her at all, unlike 3 years ago this time she has a awesome smile on her face I just did not know what to do or say so I just walked away... During the last 3 years I have had absolutely no contact with her whosoever.Now she has got in touch with one of my trusted friend and was enquiring about me ... What do I do ?

Now have I spilled the beans sufficient to you liking ?

[vashti]

Yes, that gives us more to work with.

You mentioned in your first post that the incident was blown out of proportion. Unless you are leaving out some important detail, it doesn't sound like it. I can't imagine being her and having the guy that cheated on me not even recognize me three years later.

The fact that her smile disappeared while you were talking to her may mean that you have hurt her again. I honestly can't imagine why she'd want to be in contact with you again (if you have given me all the relevant details) unless she wants revenge. That being the case, it seems like an important part of this story is still missing.

[catman]

Yes, that gives us more to work with.

You mentioned in your first post that the incident was blown out of proportion. Unless you are leaving out some important detail, it doesn't sound like it. I can't imagine being her and having the guy that cheated on me not even recognize me three years later.

The fact that her smile disappeared while you were talking to her may mean that you have hurt her again. I honestly can't imagine why she'd want to be in contact with you again (if you have given me all the relevant details) unless she wants revenge. That being the case, it seems like an important part of this story is still missing.

She wanted revenge 3 years ago and took get pleasure in humiliating me in front of all our friends as I have mentioned in my first post
([QUOTE=catman;308693], in fact on three separate occasions she got great pleasure in humiliating me in front of all our friends which gave them a very bad impression about me

The way she was smiling at me gave me the impression she wanted to patch up or wanted to start from scratch or something in that manner or ..i really don't know I'm just confused

The reason why I couldn't recognise her was that I in memory I only had strong vivid memories of those hate filled faces she made on the last three occasions i tired to speak to her begging for forgiveness. I used to live in fear that I would meet her again and she would say something nasty or make those nightmarish faces at me.On two occasions I did see girls walking towards me from a distance who resembled her and I said OMG its her and would break out into cold sweats but they turned out to be strangers which calmed my nerves tremendously.Remember I only recognized her when she started getting totally RED in the face ..She was OUTRAGED that I could not recognize her awesome smile at ALL !!!. Today is the Birthday of my Messiah, So I cannot be lying on 25 DEC. Can I ?
What part of the story could be missing any hints ..I have told you the complete truth.

[Only-virgins]

WTF is this "She was smiling at me as if I were her god" .....wtf kind of a smile is that? People smile at each other all the time. Maybe she was just trying to say no hard feelings.

Are you looking for some hope here? Do you want us to say that because she was smiling you might have a chance three years later again? No one can tell from a smile but if you really wanted to find out clearly walking off was the bad decision.

She humiliated you in-front of your friends? Did she have sex with them?

[catman]

Are you looking for some hope here? Do you want us to say that because she was smiling you might have a chance three years later again? No one can tell from a smile but if you really wanted to find out clearly walking off was the bad decision.

WTF is this "She was smiling at me as if I were her god" .....wtf kind of a smile is that? People smile at each other all the time. Maybe she was just trying to say no hard feelings.


She humiliated you in-front of your friends? Did she have sex with them?

A smile huge awesome God gifted smile reserved for the man you love respect, cherish and trust .This from the girl at our last meeting during which I saw pure hatred and disgust on her face when I meet her trying to make peace with her .No Sweet charming smile at that time it, was a get outta my face kinda expression on her face that time sorry ..So what has changed over these three years ?

She humiliated my in front of my dearest friends by mentioning strictly confidential aspects of our love life which causes me great embarrassment and most of my friends dropped me like a hot potato, and now she is behaving as if nothing really happened, or was pretending as if nothing happened .Why? Why? Why ? I agree walking away was a bad decision but the shock of seeing her smiling at me was beyond comprehension .Why is she making enquires about me with my friend when she can get in touch with me directly ?