Hello everybody!
Wednesday I've been dumped by my boyfriend from 1,5 years after a month of doubts, where we were still trying, but not seeing each other all too much. He didn't have faith in our relationship anymore, didn't think it worked by trying this way. But... He asked me to come watch a movie at his home in 4 weeks, so we can talk how we go further, if we can pick things up or if we stay friends or if we don't see each other anymore. He also said that if he really missed me in between, he would be honest about it and we would pick up the relationship again. "Because otherwise I would only screw myselve with it." And that he also hurts, but he didn't want me to have false hope.
I really don't know how I have to see this? He asked me to stay, so I stayed until Friday morning. We talked to each other on the phone for a little bit that afternoon to get things clearer and he sent me a message with ''hug hug ''. He told me to help him remember to sent me some pictures from our holiday in Rome, so Sunday I did... And he sent 8 photo's: "If you want more, just tell me. Let me know. Xx''
I almost thought he is already over me, but that's almost not possible, because he cried and I never caught him beeing dishonest, so I do believe he wants to see if we can reconile. He would call me if he wants to see me before the movie, if he knows for sure he wants to be with me again.
Now I'm going to try not to contact him for at least 3 weeks... And see if he contacts me. But if he does, is that already a sign he misses me or could it also be a sign he is already over me and just wants to be nice?
Oh, and he did say: "I still like you very much, you're not in my way, we always have an amazing time... But I just don't know if I have the faith right now. It has nothing to do with other girls or something like that, I can't even think about a new relationship. First I really need to get my life back on track." (He just graduaded from college and doesn't know what he wants to do next. And he wants to move, have a place of his own.)
So I'm confused. What can I do best to get him back with me? Is there any chance for us? Are there any signs in the next few weeks so I can see how he thinks about it?
It's not like I'm going to sit and wait for him, it's not like that, I'm doing loads of fun things the next few days... But I do want it to work out for us. Maybe I'll sent him this mini photobook with a photograph for each month we were together and a funny anekdote, things we did that month. Like how we met, our first time, our holidays together, the wild evenings... Maybe it will trigger the nice memories we had in stead of the doubts he has.
Thanks.