I lived abroad in Colombia for two years and fell in love with a wonderful and handsome Colombian man. Everything was great, except the sex. I sound like a terribly superficial person, but I was unhappy with our sex life. Please- men- do not take this the wrong way, but he was on the small side. This does not bother me, except that I really did not have sensation when having sex. For me, sex is an essential part of a romantic relationship. He told me that he was very satisfied with our sex life.
I ended up moving back to the U.S, without my boyfriend. He was unable to get a visa. (He tried on two separate occasions). I still miss him terribly but I love living back in the U.S near my family and friends. We have been broken up for about four months. Recently we talked on facebook and he told me that he still is in love with me and wants to marry me. I feel terrible, because I am dating someone else. I wanted to be honest so I told him. Now, he is understandably upset.
The other guy I am dating is super-sweet, but we have only been dating a short time. We have great sex, but I have to admit that I still have feelings for my ex-boyfriend.
Now, I am feeling so stressed about this situation it is really interfering with my job. I have trouble sleeping, because I just feel paralyzed. Like I can't make a decision!
Please no judgemental comments about the size comment. I really wish I could get over it, because he is a great person. I am not saying that size is an issue for everyone! I'm just saying that for me, I didn't feel satisfied with our sex life. I also think I should have been more open to other sex positions, etc. So, def. part of the reason the sex didn't work out is my fault!
My question is if should try to make it work with my ex or make a clean break again? I guess, I would like affirmation that sex is an important issue would be helpful... :/ Anyone in agreement that sex is an essential part of the relationship??