Ok. Let's back it up a bit. There are a few things you need to get straight in your mind first of all.
1. The cancer thing will be very scarey, but you're young and they've caught it early, so chances are you'll be fine. They can do amazing things these days. Try not to over-react and let your fears run away with themselves. Try not to make more fuss than necessary about it. This is not helping. Fear is usually a bit of a waste of time in the best of situations. It is very nice of her and shows great strength of character for her to say, even though you've been having a fight, that she will still look after you if you're sick.
2. Why do you fight with your girlfriend all the time? What are the fights about? You say they're about 'silly things', so why fight? Maybe this is why she is having second thoughts about the relationship? Maybe she's sick of all the fighting. Can you blame her? Could you try other ways to sort out your disagreements than 'fighting'? If you are going to be together in the long term you've got to find out how to discuss things with each other calmly and find a solution without yelling. You say you fight when you've been out drinking? You're both quite young to be having a drinking problem. Do you think you could slow down the drinking and this might help with the fighting? Just a tip.
3. She says she wants some 'space' and she's been enjoying going out with her friends without you (and not having to have a fight) but then she got all upset when you went out with your friends 'for a few nights' and left her alone. It is hard sometimes to get the balance right between giving your girlfriend enough attention and being too smothering. You also need time to yourself sometimes to see your friends and you need to make sure your girlfriend feels loved, cared for and appreciated too. Nobody likes to be together ALL the time. It's not really healthy either. Sure in the beginning of a relationship people love being together 'all the time', but before long you have to learn how to find a good 'middle way' that both of you will be happy about so you can get on with your own lives too. As above, you need to find a way to talk about this that doesn't involve crying, fighting or threatening to break up all the time.
4. Try to take it easy. She obviously likes you (even though you've obviously been acting like a crazy person lately and driving her mad). Give her a day or two of peace, then a nice phone call. Maybe a nice visit, some flowers, ask her if she wants to go to a movie or something - just as friends would be fine if that's what she wants for the moment! Show her that you want to be a nice guy and you're not crazy, that you're still her friend and not that arguing drunk person that makes her life more difficult instead of better? Can't hurt, can it?
5. Try to be a bit less melodramatic about everything! Just try to relax and calm down a bit. Things (everything!) will go easier for you.
Good luck with it all. I hope you work it out.
Last edited by Tanguerra; 10-10-11 at 01:20 PM.
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