Originally Posted by
Thelovedoctor
it's apparently one of the most sensitive part of the vagina along with the G-spot.
So, basically what you're saying is that you've called yourself the love doctor, but really don't know all that much about sex, the female anatomy, any how it works. You like to quote doctor studies, but lack personal knowledge and experience of your own.
Why are you giving sex advice?
She sounds like she's got too much going on in her head, and needs a way to focus her attention and drown out the chaff around her.
I would suggest starting with sensory deprivation. A blindfold to block out light, clean smelling sheets, headphones with a playlist that gets her motor going. Set the mood for herself to achieve what she wants to achieve.
Going straight for the clitoris is a no-no. It is generally very sensitive, and contact with it before a woman is fully aroused can actually be very painful for her. It's damn common in fact.
If she is trying to coach the boyfriend I would suggest he get a copy of "The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus." because it will give him a better idea of female sexual physiology, response, and what it is that he's actually stimulating. I can't say the book was good for technique, but it was a good eye opener as to why what I was doing felt good to her, and gave input on how to adjust such things to meet her needs without prompting from her.
The g-spot can work, but some women it just makes them feel like they have to go pee. Depends on the woman, if she is already having problems with mental distractions, this probably isn't a good starting point either.
Get her blindfolded, get her some music, spend 30-40 minutes just petting her skin without even touching her sexually. This will get her nerves excited, and allow blood flow to get to where it is needed before starting your climb up Mt Orgasm. Make sure you're both showered, smell good, brushed teeth, maybe some mints to keep things fresh and tingly... Minimize distractions for her.
Many of this she can do herself, blindfold, some body lotion to apply to her skin, music, and perhaps a toy.
After the first time, the next time should be easier. As a general rule women tend to orgasm easier and faster the more often they have them. So each time builds on the next.
"Well, then," the Cat went on, "you see a dog growls when it's angry, and wags its tail when it's pleased. Now I growl when I'm pleased, and wag my tail when I'm angry. Therefore I'm mad."