I read the previous thread. Sounds like the relationship bogged down under the weight of mutual faults. Perhaps it's best to cut contact with her for awhile until you get over the relationship and until the papers are sorted.
In the future when you find some one new, I think my advice is to build a solid foundation before going into marriage. If something is not working don't be too fast to leave, but don't continue if it's too broken.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~