This story is a little complicated. Please be patient.
I and this girl were madly in love with each other for 1 year. All the time we talked about getting married and were also involved physically. Then we decided to get married. However, due to an operation went wrong i lost my voice. I realised that it will be very tough for her to continue her life with me like that. Hence, i broke apart giving wierd reasons (which she never accepted). She didnt want to get married to anyone, but seeing that i was away from her and her parents forcing her to get married, she got married totally against her wishes. She has been married for 2 years now and hasnt had sex willingly with her husband even once.
All these 2 years, we always confessed to each other how much we loved each other despite everything, and she used to keep pleading me to take her back. After 1.5 years of her marriage, a miraculous operation got me my voice back. Now i really want her back. She also says that she loves me still and a lot. But, leaving a marriage will leave her with a huge guilt. Especially coz her husband has been always good with her, and loves her. However, no matter how much she tries, she is not able to love him back at all.
In india, leaving a marriage is considered a big thing and this social stigma keeps getting onto her. Due to which she doesnt know what to do.
I really want her in my life. What do i do? Ask her to make a decision asap ans risk the chance of getting a no. Take some time to let her emotions clear up a little and then ask her, but in the process go through the huge pain of waiting under uncertainity? Or simply walk away, and ensure lifetime of pain to both of us?