So I recently got back together with my ex after 2 years of not seeing or talking to eachother at all. We met in high school when I was 14 or 15 and we lasted a whole year. That's quite some time when you're that young I'd say.
Things were good then because I really felt we were on the same level, I never felt that I ran out of means to please her then. It was all simple.
Now things are different, or she'd like them to be. Today she's 18 and I'm 17. Now she's obsessed with growing up. She won't stop labeling what I say and do as 'immature'. She calls my hobbies immature, my way of talking. She seems to worry about what people will think about her having a younger boyfriend. All her friends have got guys who are several years older, who have got cars of their own and apartments of their own. Suddenly these things matter to her. Now we've only been seeing eachother for two months but she's told me already there's something 'missing', but she can't tell me what. I know that she wasn't looking to get back in the same old relationship that we had when we were younger, she told me this herself. That's fine, I wanted a fresh start too. The problem is she's so desperate to let go of who we were. That won't be possible because we haven't changed at all!
When we're together we're still laughing about the same things we laughed about 2 years ago. Still kissing in the rain. I bring her popsicles and rub her back. It's almost like deja vú. What's interesting is she doesn't care about this when it's happening. It's like she loves to be with me even though we do the same old things, but when she gets home and on the phone she remembers that's not what she really wants. And she brings up ''maturity'' again. It's killing me. So how do I spice things up for her? Do I take her out to dinner, a surprise trip somewhere? I don't want to have to do these thing for her to like me. I just want her to be happy that we're back together and stop caring so much about the details.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks