Hello all I have spent a couple of days, reading other's posts, and finally decided to try and get some advice about the one issue I am feeling in my relationship right now. I will try to keep it short, sweet, and to the point. We are 25 and 27.
We have been together a year and 3 months, have been living together for almost a year of that time. I have 2 kids. He moved from out of state, and doesn't know anyone other than co-workers, and after a bad break up I probably only have 2-3 friends anymore, all of whom are just as busy as me with work, school, kids etc.
So, we basically have no life outside of eachother. We share one car (until Feb.), and don't go out without the other. This is due to 1. Not really having friends, and 2. the high costs of babysitters, and my family doesn't live all that close. Lately, things have gotten a bit dull, and I'm trying to put some excitement back into our relationship.
It's come up that my boyfriend really enjoyed chasing me when we first got together. (skipping the back story) I really think he would enjoy the feeling of the "chase" again. Making him work for things, not being available at his beck and call. Putting some sexy back into the relationship.
(I want to point out that I have no problems with him and he is a GREAT man.) He has just become a little less affectionate lately, and like I said I want that back.
I thought that if we spent a little time apart, like maybe he could go for drinks after work with co workers on Fridays like they do, and I could try and arrange something with a friend to have a night on the town, maybe we would miss eachother a little more. The problem with that is, being that we don't get out often, when we get the chance, we like to go out together. Any advise on this?
Lastly, and I'm only bringing this playing hard to get stuff up because I really do know he will enjoy it. I wouldn't bring it up if I thought he would take it as me losing interest in him, thats not the case, so I'm not worried about the "what could go wrong" I'm not planning to take it to the extreme.
Problem is, I REALLY lack creativity. I'm having a hell of a time figuring out what ways I can play hard to get, especially in a living together, longer term relationship. I'm hoping for specifics. Not answering calls so quickly? Being a little less available? Let him see when other men flirt with me? (my conversation back being strictly casual, I have NO intentions of being with another man.)
Any suggestions would gretly help ease my stress. Google hasn't been the greatest help, and if you can't tell, I'm not the greatest at using what god gave me, and playing up that woman role. Frankly, I'm quite dumb to the situation.
Thank you all in advance, looking forward to giving, and getting advice on these touchy subjects.