Hi all....I am in need of a bit more advice
My GF and I are truly in love, but there are some things getting in the way. For starters, she is a sex addict, dont get me wrong, the sex we have is amazing for both of us, we can make love, and we can ****, but most of the time, like many other people it is a combination of both. This is all good I assume, but she has a nasty habit of measuring love with sex(why she is a sex addict)...she is aware she has this problem, and trys very hard not to do it, but it is hard on her because of her past. This is also hard for her to talk about. So I am trying to help her, but without knowing everything it is hard. i am 42, she is 40, I have been in many relationships and have never had arguments about sex, but it seems to happen pretty frequently with this one. Just as an example, after we have had sex, she gets horny just thinking about it, understandable because most times it is very hot, but as an older guy, after 2 or 3 times, all I want is a sandwich.....and because I dont get erect by just seeing her naked or kissing her she says I dont want or love her....she knows this is not right, but cant control herself sometimes. Not only does this add stress to her by tring not to be herself, but its is starting to put pressure on me, and as all you women know, guys dont work very well under pressure. And yes, i have thought about using viagra or something, but i feel this is just a temporary fix.... this is a very difficult subject to talk about with friends, family and even her...but i am hoping one of you may have some insight, and give me some advise....thank you in advance and thanks for reading......MJFCAP