Hello everyone. I am a male and I'm 19 years old. I'm going to tell you my recent story, because it's mind-blowing me, and I have never been in a situation like this.
Recently, about a month, a new girl appeared to work in my company. I'm a IT technician, and I need to configure every person's computer.
So, I talked to this girl, been nice like I am to everybody. On the 2nd day I had her number and we started texting each other, and we liked each other - as friends. She persisted and I answered back. I knew she has a boyfriend, but she really wanted to get out with me, to go have lunch with me, etc etc. And so we did. We spend massive time together, in work and after.
After the 3rd week I already was sleeping at her house, in her bed, with her. Don't get me wrong, although we both wanted to have sex, we both felt it was somehow wrong to do it in the same bed she shares with him. But we sure kissed a lot, touched each other, slept attached to one another several days. Her boyfriend was absent. He was in another country, working. She says her relationship isn't going too well, that he is beggining to spend a lot of time out working, that he doesn't like to go out very much... I don't know the details. She might have seen in me somebody better at some levels, I don't know.
But then he came back... The dinners and the time at their house stopped, of course... But the launch and the kiss's / hugs near our work continued!
Until... last week!
I went to this medical consultation with her, in which she did a couple of exams (22 May). In the next Sunday we were supposed to had lunch together - boyfriend was absent again and she asked me if I wanted to go have lunch with her. But in the saturday, the exam results came. And she didn't answer my SMS, my calls on sunday! In the next day, on Monday, she was with a really bad & sad face, didn't invite me to lunch like she used to, and we barely talked that day. She went straight home. Next day, she says that she needs to do more exams again, that it is a hormonal problem (pimples started to show up, here and there in her body). I asked her out for a bit in the garden, she said she didn't want to...
And this is the thing here! After these exams she changed towards me. Sure, we still had lunch together last Friday, but we don't share an "our" moment for quite some time! Today she went to a concert with her boyfriend (she had the tickets long ago), and I'm really worried here. A concert is a concert, this can be bad for me.
I don't know what to think anymore: my dates were always clean and free. This girl has a boyfriend and is 9 years older than me, and still has interest in me... She is really worth it
But what if the hormonal problem is caused by stress or something, and she assumes that the stress comes from our "relation", what's to come of this concert between them... Should I insist, should I backoff to see if she wants my company again?
I need some guidance over here, this is a new situation to me and I really don't know what to do.
If we stop seeing each other I will think forever that I've failed and that I had the opportunity to have sex with he.
If I insist too much, she might loose her interest in me...
Feel free to ask me more details!
Thank you all.