Guess who is mildly inebriated

[DoesntMatter]

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[Cbrider]

DM, you talk a good game, why the hell can't you play the game?

You're far to critical of yourself, not every guy at a party is good looking and believe it or not, not all girls are after a six pac Abercrombie model.

[Lite]

DM, you know what women hate? Men who aren't confident. You sir are not confident, you don't stand up for yourself, your self deprecation is not cute or interesting to women. It's a yawner.

Would you ever honestly want to date, or sleep with, a woman who is with you because you're down on yourself?

Secondly, do you really want to start a relationship with anyone when you've been drinking? Isn't it just better to learn to be OK with being yourself without the alcohol?

Like CB Said, some women like a guy w/ a bit of a pouch etc. It means they're comfy, and not narcissistic, and utterly self absorbed.

[Mish]

Talking to girls is very important, not from chatting them up point of view, but from finding out if they are right for you. Go out to more parties where there are people you know and practice going around the room talking to multiple people. This will be good experience and practice for you. You need to build up those social skills DM, they are very important.

[DoesntMatter]

lol, "confidence"

If I was confident with women I'd just fuccking rape the shit out of one. Then again that would mean I care, which, despite my claiming because of sudden pangs of want, I really don't care

[DoesntMatter]

DM, you know what women hate? Men who aren't confident. You sir are not confident, you don't stand up for yourself, your self deprecation is not cute or interesting to women. It's a yawner.

Would you ever honestly want to date, or sleep with, a woman who is with you because you're down on yourself?

Obviously I say different things to women than I do to people on LF. A woman would have no idea that I'm "down on myself" in real life at ALL. Do you think what I say in a piss and moan thread sounds anything like what I say in real life?

And secondly, I AM confident and DO stand up for myself in other areas. Generic confidence is just the stupidest (literally stupid) thing a person can have

[misombra]

i don't get it. the way you are here isn't transfering to the real world.

but it's okay. you're young and still figuring out who you are. i wouldn't worry about it so much dm. you're quite normal.

[vashti]

lol, "confidence"

If I was confident with women I'd just fuccking rape the shit out of one.

Quit talking like that. It pisses me off.

I think you should get a dating coach.

[DoesntMatter]

Quit talking like that. It pisses me off.

Not a woman. A carefully selected BITCH who I happen to dislike

[vashti]

I still don't like it. It makes you sound like an asshole, which I don't usually take you for.

Your problem isn't girls - you could get them easily enough if you put forth even a small amount of effort. Your problem is your anxiety. You need to address this.

[Mish]

i don't get it. the way you are here isn't transfering to the real world.

I think that's because the real world has a lot more constraints than the internet world. It's very easy to be confident online where people can't read your body language and where you don't have split seconds to formulate your speech, pick up on various cues in a conversation where multiple people compete for attention. Most likely people simply don't have a chance to understand or read DM's personality because they don't get to engage with him on the same level as we do here.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Didnt read the original post cuz it was deleted, but from the responses,it seems to be a typical rant thread by DM.

DM seems to be stuck in the mentality that all girls like bad boys and assholes and to be slutty...and boy oh boy is he wrong. But eh, I think repeatedly telling DM this is like beating a dead horse. What's the point?

[Junket]

DM still sounds like me 3 years ago.

[DoesntMatter]

Didnt read the original post cuz it was deleted, but from the responses,it seems to be a typical rant thread by DM.

DM seems to be stuck in the mentality that all girls like bad boys and assholes and to be slutty...and boy oh boy is he wrong. But eh, I think repeatedly telling DM this is like beating a dead horse. What's the point?

You're almost completely right too. Not about me belief that all girls like bad boys though. It's just what most guys do to girls that heighten their expectations to unachievable levels. I can't compete with the good guys (the non-assholes) either. I could probably land a date. But I honestly don't think I could hold down a girlfriend because my social behavior and personal skills are just so appalling. I would feel bad for the girl dating me to have to go throgh that

But you're right about everything else. I don't expect or care if people post responses to this. It's like this- I'm just pissed off and am always pissed off, and this is how it sometimes manifests itself. So I'm not looking for convincing or anything else. It's just me being pissed and doing something with it, it doesn't much effort for my to log-in to a forum and make a paragraph post about that

[lastwish]

Hmmm...if you can land friends you can land girlfriends. Do you have many friends? Its not like girls and guys are that much different.