Should I bring it up? No idea what to do.

[choover323]

Hey, I have had this crush on this girl for 3 years became her best friend than actually started dating! We have now been dating for almost 7 months, and she has been in London studying abroad since January. Before she left we had a conversation about our goals in life. I told her I want to get a job I’m happy with than get married and have children. She said she wanted to work for peace corp or another organization like that one and said she wouldn’t mind not getting married and just being single her whole life traveling and helping people. I took this very hard but she said that she loves me and doesn’t want to think about it right now and we will see what happens. So I got over it and haven’t thought about it for a couple months. Than recently she said this thing that made it seem like she wanted me to choose my career over her because she would do the same to me. It made be upset and I told her that I wanna talk to her about something but told her that I’d talk when she gets home. Should I bring it up or just not worry about it and see how things pan out?

[choover323]

Im 21 shes 20 btw

[vashti]

She is telling you she wants you to be more goal-oriented and to tone down the intensity of this relationship, and at your age, i don't blame her. I would take this as a big hint to quit making long-term plans, and quit trying to hold on to her too tightly, or she's going to bolt.

[OhSuzy]

I definitely second that