Hello!
I need a little help and I'll try to make a very long story short. So, I dated my first big love for three years and we broke up a year ago. It was mostly long distance relationship and like any other, we had a lot of good times but also a lot of arguments. And somewhere in between, we changed. He started thinking that what we had, didn't make him happy enough and that he needed to be alone. That was a year ago. I called and begged him to try and work things out, I thought that if we just tried a little, everything would work out. But he said he was done trying for good, that this won't work. So I stopped calling.
Soon I had a rebound relationship and when he found out from a mutual friend, he called me. Then after a month I called him and we went for a drink. And we were together again for a month or so. I knew that he loved me, I could see it, but his behaviour showed as he was using me for sex. He broke it off again, didn't hear for each other for 4 months. Then something terrible happened in my family and I called him, he said that he still loves me and wants to be with me. We sat down and talked through about all the thing that have to change to make this work. It was great, but after 2 months he suddenly realized he doesn't love me at all, or wants to be with me, ever again (like every time before this). I texted him and he didn't even reply. He replied now, after 4 months. And he is calling me like every three days just to see how i am (which he hasn't done once in 4months). We were on a drink and it was great and once he even told me he didn't get over me. Why didn't at least one of us move on already?
I don't know what to think. Is he trying to use me again or did he really come to the conclusion that what we had was special and worth saving?
Thank you for your answers!!