Originally Posted by
tzna
I don't know exactly, I feel a little insecure sometimes and his high sex drives bothers me because I know that even looking at OTHER girls gets him horny, and he's horny all the time...so I guess I wanted to "punish" him in a way, by not giving in to sex so easily. But that's kind of unfair and immature of me I guess, especially since he can't control his hormones and he treats me well, he hasn't done anything wrong.
Sex drive is more or less involuntary. If you base a person's affections purely on their drive then you will open yourself up to all kinds of insecurities. I can assure you that if my boyfriend did that he would undoubtedly pull his hair out because my drive is as high, if not higher than his own.
The idea of "punishing" the guy by not giving in to sex is a double-edged sword. It may work at first, but may lead to a guy eventually leaving.
Just take comfort in knowing that in spite of his high drive, he's still with you. That in itself should be a compliment.
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen