I have come to the conclusion there is no chance of getting back with my ex. Now my problem is I'm all alone and can't even seem to find a date or even any way to come into contact with men in my town. Any suggestions would be helpful. My situation.... I don't know anyone here that is single, male or female. Except my ex's co-worker who is only 22 and dates teenage girls. There is one club here and it is 18 & over, only teenyboppers hang out there.There are a few bars, I splurged (bought one drink) at a bar and grill and sat there drinking it very slowly, but no guys came up to me or even took a second look, they were all real young and hitting on girls who were dressed like sluts! My ex never allowed me to have girls night out and I wasn't from here so I only had 2 close friends, both married, one of which he cheated on me with, the other moved away. I still haven't found a job here, so no friends to make there. I have been so upset and stressed out and cannot afford food and have lost 40lbs, so now none of my clothes fit. I didn't have any nite out clothes anyway, my husband never took me out and I dropped from a 16 to a 12 while married so anything I had before marriage got too big and I got rid of them. So now Im down to an 8 and my skin is sagging like I had gastric bypass or something. I cannot afford a gym membership and I only have one pair of jeans that fit(cheap plain grandma looking) and 2 zip up sweatshirts and old white tennis shoes(all that I can afford). I want to move on, but I cannot even afford to go out and buy myself a drink. And I do not feel that I have anything to offer a guy at this point even conversation wise. I'd be happy just to have a male friend to go have drinks with and talk. But talk about what? I do not have a credit card so can't do on-line dating and don't want to chat on-line with strangers. I can't afford to buy clothes to go out. I have no clothes to even go to church and meet a guy there. I ran out of contacts (eyewear) and now am wearing my 3 year old glasses that have a crack in the bottom of the lens. ATTRACTIVE!!
I'm not ugly, and if I had a job and money for clothes, drinks and food I would be out. I cannot even afford to go to the coffeeshop. I have wandered around the grocery store and smiled at guys, but they ignore me, I imagine it's because I am not dressed attractive. I am clean, no greasy hair, no bad breath.What do I do?!!!