Hello, perhaps you can help me with this problem. I don't get dates. I push myself to go out, dress up in fancy clothes, show some skin, and THEN sometimes I get somebody interested only in one thing, but very rarely (I am no model, and I am getting close to 40), and apart from that nobody, I mean NOBODY, asks me out. I can't even say it was better when I was 20, because back then it was even worse.
At least now I am making the effort to go out there and since some years I am much more positive and open, (used to be borderline shy), still, no dates. One thing I don't do is to ask guys out, because it never really worked, but I am encouraging, not desperate, can give hints without being pushy, can hold a conversation, feel OK with myself, so what is the matter?
Sometimes I suspect I am really ugly and that explains things, and last year I put my picture on HotorNot to get a minimum of objective response, and I had an average of 9, which is not that bad, and all my life I was told I was pretty (although no model) so I just don't understand.
Or maybe I am really boring? How to find out?
thank you