Hey everyone! I know this is my first time posting here, but I wanted some advice on my relationship, and I don’t really feel like talking to any of my friends about it. I heard there were places online to ask for advice on lots of things, so I figured I’d give it a try. It’s better than nothing, right?
Ok, some backstory on the problem and myself: I’m a 24 year old girl, living in Dallas, TX. I got my Master’s degree about a year ago, and after that got a job doing social marketing for a small business. I love my life here, I’m plenty established, and I don’t really want to leave the area. However, if there were one thing I might consider leaving this area for is my boyfriend. Sadly…he lives in California. We grew up together, so I know him really well, so it’s not as MUCH of a problem to have a long distance thing. We’ve been dating for a little over a year now, and aside from missing each other, we really don’t have many problems…yet. See, the thing is…I know he’s hiding something from me. I’m pretty sure this isn’t just me imagining things or being the typical paranoid girlfriend either. He’s always, always low on money, but he makes a decent amount per year to support himself. He makes about 30,000 a year, pays about 900 dollars a month for rent and utilities (thankfully northern California is a little cheaper than the south), and his diet consists mostly of things you can pull out of a freezer, so it’s not like TOO much is going towards food. And yet, he’s always, always low on money, and it seems like every day he’s claiming he’s broke. But that just doesn’t add up, mathematically speaking. I offer to help him set up a budget, but he always kinda brushes the subject aside. He’s never been the type who’s into drugs or anything…hell, boy was an Eagle Scout in high school. When I try to suggest ways to fix his money issue, he seems very interested…but just like a normal guy, he never follows through. It’s really frustrating. I ask what’s bothering him, and you can just tell there’s something, cause there’s always that normal pause, followed by “It’s nothing, really.” Anyone have any ideas on how I can get him to open up to me? Like I said…we grew up together…this sort of thing has NEVER been a problem. >< I just don’t know what to do.