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Was with my boyfriend now ex for about 4-5 years... he is a Canadian 29 I am located in the states I am 27. We visit and very very close we can just talk for hours and hours and hours and we have a great time together. Loyal all years to him made lots of sacrafices i even took a bus for 2 days to reach him, he has spent money on taking care of me, i even left my state to live with him for a year. I messed up pretty bad and called him a name I shouldnt have when he has been helping me out a lot over the years get situated. On top of that one to many times he would warn me not to do something and I would anyway and it would cause more finance problem for us. In other words I was being selfish and yes I am to blame clearly.. Its been about 6mths.. at first i was real needy and annoying.. and I didnt see the big picture of what I had done. But now without thinking with just emotions im actually using my brain and get it.. During the needy stage that i wish i didnt do.. men hate that.. but I had asked him some questions.. he did answer them these were the responses.
Can I ever be forgiven? I don’t know
do you love me? I did love you
do you care about me? yes i do
And being in love? Yes I can say that I am still in love
Can we rebuild what we have? right now I don’t want anyone not after what you have done I am very hurt
Would you prefer to just go on your own.. and let this be? Well I did already break up , I can talk to you.
he also said If this was any other man he would not even be talking to you, but because its you I am, so you better take what you can get out of me we can talk.
do you feel well ever have an actual visit again? im sure one day we can visit ( this was a strange answer)
How do you think I feel about you? Look I know you love me but how can I rely on you is another question how can I ever trust you again.. and know you wont turn on me and make a thousand mistakes that will hurt us.- this is when it dawned on me ways to fix myself.. and work for better.
What are my chances? no, you just don’t get it I have given you enough chances and warnings why should I risk again being burned. I don’t deserve this treatment. actions are louder then words.
okay..i cant blame him for his choice to leave me.. any man would he prob didnt feel appreciated calling him a name and hes done nothing but help me, and on top of that all the finances he gave me to fix the issues i had.. to become stable in which i am now. I have been working on myself and trying to be the woman i know i really am with actions i am making sure that im stable and other things just staying busy not being needy on him.
He keeps me on his messenger.. a few times i told him he can just delete me since its over, but he kept me , he messages me sometimes might say good afternoon or evening..i do not msg him i did that during the 6mths surely had to drive him crazy i leave him be he can msg me on his own terms, i try to act a little aloof so im not to desperate and that it shows im busy but eventually ill respond and talk some.. nothing to long.. i want him to have his respect and honor and wish. But he does seem to message me.. he might miss talking to me cant tell.
What are my chances here any at all? Any thing else I could possibly do to help him feel any better.. I would like to visit him but not unless his terms.. Any suggestions? I hope to not fall into the friend category! and yes i do love this man very much he is the most wonderful man i have ever met.. i was going through my own personal issues.. and I put it out on my sweetheart.. he is the best man... he has his small faults too but he is truly a great great person soul and spirit.. i would love to reconcile with this man of course given it was in both our interest.