Originally Posted by
Petit Papillon
Well dunno how it is with other guys,but as soon as something bad happens to my bf,he comes to me looking for comfort. But we are few years older than you guys and I think it also makes a difference.
Well but I have other example. Few years ago, my friends mother was murdered.Obviously, everybody was telling him how sorry they were and all and I'm pretty sure he was sick of it. I decided to approach him from a different side. I didn't repeat how sorry I am and how bad I feel about him, I was just talking to him. About random stuffs, trying to make him stop thinking about him. I listened to him but didn't make him talk about this. Of course at the time when he needed to talk about it ,I've listened, but I never pushed him to anything. I was there without telling him that I'll be there for him. I was just saying like "heyah ,what's up? " and we were starting to talk. I didn't look with pity at him, I treated him normaly. And I think somehow I helped him at the time to forget about it ,even just for a moment. Without pushing. Just trying to talk to him ,step by step. You could try similar thing. When you try to talk to him ,start with how are you? Or dunno, what did you do today, or what plans do you have for today, I don't know. Try to get to him but in a delicate way.