in need of some optimism

[whms694]

so my best friend and i have hooked up. things were weird for awhile and then it happened again and go figure, things are starting to seem more normal than ever. so im happy about that. but for the most part he acts like he doesnt want anything to come from it, hes very chill and always comes across like he doesnt think too in depth about anything. the other night we were kissing and he started asking me what i wanted like if i wanted a boyfriend or whatever. i said i didnt know really and he said the same for him. he really confuses me and i dont know if i should ever expect anything to come of it or just let it be. ive always believed that everything thats meant to be will find its way and work themselves out. its just harder to believe regarding your own life. anyone have any good advice?

[Mish]

the other night we were kissing and he started asking me what i wanted like if i wanted a boyfriend or whatever. i said i didnt know really and he said the same for him.

It looks like for some reason he's looking for a lead from you. This is the bit where you can't be confused and tell him exactly what YOU want. Do you want to have a relationship with him? If yes, you should say so now so he knows your expectations. If no, say it as well so both of you know where you are.

I know girls hate being put in these leading positions, but it looks like situation demands it.

[Gigabitch]

It sounds like you can make anything you want out of this situation- why not make something good? Tell him you want him.