I am looking for advice, hopefully from someone who might have experienced Something similar but I would appreciate all constructive advice.
So heres my story, I met my wife when we were young and we started our relationship seriously as age 16 or so, I was a virgin and she had been with one other partner. We had our ups and downs like all young couples do but we both grew up. After a few years we had a baby together and thats when I expected serious loyalty from my wife, as she did from me. But she was always suspicious of me so I made my life an open book so she could see everything I did, I trusted her so I never checked on her Facebook, Phone etc. We have been together nearly 7 years and our baby is now over 2 years old.
This past week I found out my wife was having 2 affairs at the same time, one man was from another country who she had been talking to for 3 months or so now and had just had him fly to where we live to spend time with him over mothers day, while I was told she was going to her mothers for the weekend. The other is someone she's known since high school but was only ever on loose talking terms, she started talking to him last week and slept with him Thursday.
I found out all during the week, and confronted her about it, I decided to meet her at the park to explain my love for her(She was at his house near the park) after spilling my heart out to her I said lets walk to his house and we did, she said she needed to do this(Have sex with him) so when we got there I told him I knew what was going on and asked her to decide what she wanted to do. She said If I do this ONS then you can have one too, so I walked away and she went with him for the night... I was hoping she would follow me.
She came back the next morning and we talked about what happened, she said she just needed to be with someone else to see if she was missing something and that she talked to the other guy only for attention. I ended up meeting both these guys and talked, the guy from the other country was genuinely upset because he thought she was single and was in love with her.
So now I know everything, one physical affair and one emotional and now she wants to try to change for me, by doing pretty much anything I need. I just don't know if I can believe her after she walked away from me right into another mans house...
Im not the perfect husband, but I always loved her and tried my best to show it. I literally committed everything to her and I want to make this for work for us and our baby. I just don't know if she actually learned anything or is realy satisfied with her ONS so she doesn't do it again.
I am not a sucker but a hard working and devoted husband, and I need advice on whether people think shes telling the truth, I'll answer anyones questions if it helps them form an opinion.
Thank you for your time, it helps.
Edit: I also don't want to have a one night stand even if she wants me too, because I love her and doing that wouldn't change how hurt I feel.
I also didn't beat these guys up, because I didn't want to buy them a house after they sued me, because both of them were squeamish little shits when I confronted them.