Well, I'm 24, and I've had three relationships that have lasted more than a year, my longest being just short of three years: My ages with the three past relationships. (17-18, 18-20, 20-23).
At work, I am surrounded by many of the male workers as a great friend, it's almost as if they are in line to speak to me. The same applies to many of the females at either of my jobs, but most of these are "friendzone" relationships, but I don't really care, since I'm not interested in most of these females in a sexual manner either. Socially, I have no issues, never had, and don't expect to in the future. Much of this is due to the wide range of subjects upon which I can converse. One, I'm a Libertarian/Constitutionalist, which allows me to converse politically with the more mature minded of either party/ideology in a civil and engaging manner. Two, I love cars and repair them myself. Three, I graduated with a degree in piano and clarinet performance and musical composition. Four, I have a second in mathematics, as I had to discontinue music after being afflicted by carpel tunnel. At night I tend to "Wiki-binge." Yes this makes me rather nerdy in some respects, but I also work out at the local gym and can a run a mile in 5:20. I've also worked at Geek Squad in Best Buy for more than a year, so I know a lot about computers too.
And bear in mind, that I've had three successful relationships, one of which ended when my first GF went to another college (from highschool), the second my the next GF went back to her home country, the third ended out of mutual boredom, she only wanted to go to "girly" things, and never wanted to tag along to things that I enjoyed (such as watching a local car race or horse race or something else that could be considered masculine). So whatever, you it ended over incompatibility issues, and we still talk frequently as it is (we mutually freindzoned each other).
So, it's been more than a year now and I have not been able to get another girlfriend. And what's strange is that unlike the previous years, I'm actively seeking one. I'm not really into "one-night stands" anymore, I've had solid relationships and they are definitely far more rewarding than being single in terms of fulfillment and purpose.
Now you've probably noticed that my screen is called "Beyond Explanation/Reason," and now I will share why, and perhaps you can fill me in.
I've noticed a rather disturbing trend. I've meticulous attempted to "court" (court in the 21st Century sense) about four women in the past 18 months, and each of them were showing signs of high interest, positive responses to both my words and touch. They were all very close in age, the least being 21. All of these girls were at my job as well (one of them).
Yet, each of these girls were "snatched" by a part-time dude, who had no car, no house, and barely any money, one of them even got fired for drinking on the job and she's still with him. ?????
Initially, I thought it was a just a bizarre series of ****ed up choices by these particular females. I'm not saying that material wealth is the sole qualifier for a relationship, but on LONG ISLAND (especially Suffolk County, the east side) , a man without a CAR is IMMOBILE and entirely dependent upon others for transportation.
Since I was on "good terms" with these females, they would ask ME to give them and their new BF a ride. I don't tolerate that crap, and I said NO. I actually greased another one of my friends, Tony, to NOT give one couple a ride either, yeah I actually gave him $20 to go straight home. I wanted to see them stranded without a ride. Needless to say, this couple broke up literally the next day LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL.
Anyway, that aside, so as I said, I thought it was "just a bizarre series of ****ed up choices." So while I was at the gym, I asked a question to some of the guys (in a conversation/non-obvious manner) that I never asked before..."What's your job/occupation." I was alarmed when more than half of these buff monsters FREELY admitted that they didn't have a job, they were on government subsidy and "parental" subsidy.
What? And these are the guys with some smoking girlfriends on top of it. Often multiple chicks. ??? Then I'm at Dunkin Donuts and I see a girl from Highschool who I know has a degree in Dental Law and Dentistry with some punk looking dude who also said he was unemployed, meanwhile I know that she (Erin) is basically his "sugar mommy" even though she is actually younger than him.
So I started to wonder, honestly, should I just quit both my jobs, sell my house, get on the taxpayer dole, super buff myself at the gym and move back in with my parents so I can land a smoking GF?
On Long Island, I always thought that a Car, House and Decent Income were PREREQUISITES to any successful relationship. Notice I said "prereqs" and not "indicators" or "guarantees."
Why am I being FRIENDZONES at an alarming rate now. And I don't mean the "Cold-FriendZone" where the weirdos go. I'm constantly finding myself in the "BFF Zone," while having them snatched by virtually unemployed, carless, drunk, houseless douchbags.
What's going on here, is this the latest trend, should I join in?