2 Months, 3 weeks. That's how long it took to get to this point.... which is where I can honestly and truly say that I'm over it. COMPLETELY over it. No more wondering why, no more thoughts and hopes of reconciliation, no more wishing things happened differently, no more "what ifs". Just closure and reassurance that I am a badass
From here on out, it's win-win. If in the future she gets her act together and comes back, then awesome... But it no longer matters if she does or not. My life is now 100% focused on me and taking advantage of all the things I can now do on my own.
I'm only saying this for all the people on here who keep wondering about NC.... maybe this will help a little bit. The point is, once you know your relationship can't be salvaged (or shouldn't be salvaged), this is still the best thing to do. It's the hardest thing to do, but worth every frustrating second it took getting here. It's going to take some people a little longer than me. Others can do it faster than me. Regardless, I'm just glad that I didn't give in. Sure, there were a couple of things I wished I could have said or done, but I wouldn't be at this point had I done it. I would have had to start all over again and who knows how much longer I'd be suffering because of it. You CAN give yourself closure after a breakup. You don't need a damn thing from the other person to move on.
So for anyone who is maybe a little hesitant to do it this way, don't be. I can vouch for it.