What's Wrong With Me?

[Bluedevil180]

This is going to be a slightly awkward topic but I need some advice...
I lost my virginity but I had a lot of trouble getting aroused.
It just wasn't happening. I've realized the only thing I was aroused by was her feet and that was enough to finally get things going.

There are two concerns.
1.) I always knew I had a foot fetish but I didn't realize it was that bad..
2.) It just took so long to actually get aroused and I wasn't getting turned on by a b/j...

Another thing to keep in mind is that I was wearing a condom and didn't really feel much of the foreplay that intensely..

So, what's wrong with me?
Why am I so impotent when I'm only 20?

[lilly1185]

How sexually attracted are you to the girl?

maybe also try not putting so much stress on yourself. If you were a virgin at the time, you could have just been freaking yourself out.
Relax and enjoy the ride

[Bluedevil180]

How sexually attracted are you to the girl?

maybe also try not putting so much stress on yourself. If you were a virgin at the time, you could have just been freaking yourself out.
Relax and enjoy the ride

I don't know how to describe how sexually attracted I am to her, not incredibly attracted but enough that I wouldn't be completely turned off by having sex with her, it was a one-night-stand. The only girls I've ever dated have either been hard-core Catholics or girls with whom sex just never happened with for other reasons (either because we were only 13 or the relationship ended too soon..)

Also I definitely was nervous, I was afraid of failing miserably.
I felt bad too because there she seemed to put a lot of effort into turning me on- but much of it just didn't work...
I'll remember to just relax next time. I'm really thinking of waiting for the next girlfriend rather than rely on casual hookups though.