Brief very brief history
We separated due to his depression, noone (and I mean no one) saw it coming. And the fact he ahd become emotionally involved with someone else. They knew each other 2 months. She listened and understood him (yadda yadda ugh). He broke up with me, shortly after she left her hubby and they moved intogether.
We have been together 18 years
children involved. He has them every weekend
Due to finances, children and business we are in contact alot. Even at the beginning we put everything aside to make sure the kids were as least affected as possible.
OK here's where i am at. 6 months later
For the past few weeks
He has been visiting "the kids" more and more. He stays though after they have gone to bed for a while.
He has been bringing stuff back to the house, he left a lot of stuff here as well. When I say stuff I mean clothes (he has to stay here one night while I work nights) as well as tools and even a trailer and he is bringing a vehicle back. his excuse is that he needs to use the shed although the house he is in has a garage and a carport. which also means more time here at the house as he works on the things here.
he has taken to texting and calling on a daily basis. these are to me not in regards to the girls or anything. Sometimes flirty
he spent a few nights here for the kids (2 within a week) birthdays, he wanted to be here for their birthday morning and their birthday night (earlier in the breakup he didn't do this with one of our other kids birthday he took off at the night).
He has been chatting about doing things around the house, not just little things BIG things.
he has given us extra money, bought things for me, gotten groceries...
I had removed myself from certain things like health insurance and he put me back on.
He is being more and more affectionate towards me almost "courting" me again.
There are other things as well.
I am confused to what is happening He is still with OW altho kids say things are different with him now. i refuse to put kids in a bad situation and won't ask anything.
So guys, any insight?
After the first few weeks of it all happening everything calmed down and for the most part we have been getting on well, we still argue occassionally very occassionally.
We have always been close, altho for 18 months before he left it was VERY stressful. I should have seen the signs of depression but hey 20 20 vision in hindsight.
Any insights would be good.