Hi guys I’m new here and have stumbled across this as a last resort.
My story is fairly long so thank you if you reach the end.
My GF of a year broke up with me a few days ago saying that she’s had enough of the stress and arguing. We have been together for a year (on and off) and she did that she couldn’t see a future. I suffer from anxiety and she says my worrying has finally pushed her away.
We had a very up and down relationship. Extremely loving and affectionate but would argue over things such as trust etc
I would ask her if she was happy and ask for reassurance-something she said she couldn’t cope with anymore. We have been here before a couple of times and always get back together for a few months before it starts again. We have so much in common, our kids (she has 3 I have 1) love seeing each other, we spent most of our time together but she said she has had enough of the stress and bickering and the questions my anxiety caused. I love her very much and she always said the same.
We have spoken briefly (she said she didn’t know what she wanted apart from a week with no stress) but messaged soon after saying she’s made up her mind and that she’s happy to be friends eventually.
We had a very loving close relationship. She is my best friend and I love her kids as my own. I spent most my time with them but she said she had got tired of not being able to relax.
I sent her a message 2 days ago which she read and didnt reply..I’ve heard nothing since. I have fallen into the trap of checking her Facebook and what’s app aswell as snapchat. She is active on all of them so is choosing to have no contact with me although all her profile pictures are still of ‘us’. (As are mine) I’m constantly checking to see if she’s changed them knowing that she will eventually. I just wish she’d done it already as it’s almost giving me false hope.
I’m am struggling. She knows I want us to fix it and get back to being together but it seems she’s made up her mind. Is there anything I can do? Do I need to give up or just wait to see if I hear from her?
Many thanks
James