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[michelle23]

Michelle you really better watch what you say about other people's relationships. I know you come on here boasting about your perfect relationship with your guy and think you can give people all this advice, but from what I gather you are 23 and this is your first serious relationship, correct? Or maybe your 2nd. Either way, you have been with this guy a decent amount of time and you are still very young. I am older than you (not by much) but I have had relationships, breakups, and experiences with guys. I wouldn't come on here all condescending and talk down to people who have had way more experience than you have. Nobody's relationship is perfect, so if you truly believe that yours is you're living in a fantasy world. It's not healthy to not have any disagreements or arguments in a relationship. Either you're lying to everyone here, or something isn't right with your perfect boyfriend. "

I never said my relationship is perfect Ashley. We have had our ups and downs like everyone else. We have had some arguments but we have a healthy way of resolving conflict. I almost gave up on us a year ago as I was grieving and in a very dark place after someone close to me died. I no I am not immune to heartache. He could walk out the door any time and shatter my heart. It could happen to anyone. The reason I offended Rob is because he has made numerous smart comments at my expense just because he did not agree with my opinion. And I think he should concentrate on his own issues instead of coming on here being nasty to others. I have given plenty of people good advice on this website and gotten numerous thankyous and points since I joined.

Also this is not my first relationship. I have had two relationships before this one and casually dated plenty of frogs in my teens. I have always been mature for my age and know what I want. Just because I am young does not mean my relationship wont last. It mightn't but it might.

Also, you say people who sit in front of a computer and watch porn have no lives. No offense, but you have been here less then a month and have over 1,000 posts. I have been here 2 years and don't even have that much. Seems like you are the one sitting your life away in front of a computer.
Just think of this quote from the TV show Scrubs -"Honey I know your type. It is so easy to see other people's problems from way up there on your pedestal, but you better be careful up there because if you fall off and have to walk around down here with the rest of us, I don't know, you might catch a glimpse of yourself in a mirror or the surface of a pond, or your boyfriends gigantic shiny head and trust me, you're not gonna like what you see."

The reason I have so much time on my hands is because I work as a store manager in a cash for gold shop 6 days a week 7 hours a day and we literally get about 3 customers a day so I have plenty of time to post here. I do not put myself on a pedastal. My life is far from perfect. My bf is and family are the only things keeping me sane right now and happy. But if someone is going to throw sly digs at me and be a prick for no reason-then I have every right to say what I think of them.

[rob1984]

I never said my relationship is perfect Ashley. We have had our ups and downs like everyone else. We have had some arguments but we have a healthy way of resolving conflict. I almost gave up on us a year ago .

well by saying you have no issues, pretty much says your relationship is perfect.

Most men don't need to read a book and pretend to be some sort of alpha dog to catch a women's attention. A lot of men don't feel the need to go out and **** half the town to make themselves feel like more of a man. Some men actually have some confidence in themselves and don't need to prove their worth to the rest of the world. Some men have some integrity and respect for women.

actually alot of men do not know how to feel confident or act with women, so They need to learn, just like someone learning to drive a car. I no where said its for them to go out and screw everyone.. you say some men have confidence.. well some do not, and need some help.

The only one pissing me off on this site is Rob. Love how he throws those words around-Tassy and Michelle are insecure (lol) because we don't watch porn

I said you are insecure because your man watched porn, not you. Tassy is insecure because her man watched porn, not because he lies about it. its why she was upset she could not get a dildo , but he can watch porn.. so he is insecure about her dildo and she is insecure about the women on the internet.

I dont feel the need to look at others doing their business without feeling and for money to get off I much prefer to think of the wonderful sex my man and I have had and that gets me off every time. BUT EACH TO THEIR OWN!!!!!!!!!!!!

you say this Tassy, but yet you wanted a dildo.. was your man not enough.. were you going to think of his penis when you used the dildo...

And as for Vince-I love how you jump in half way through a thread without reading most of it and assume you know what your on about.

yet smackie said, nothing about addiction.. and you made it about addiction.. seems you do not get enough attention at home, you are always here and need to make the threads about what you want.

P.S obviously there is a problem when you and tassy simply thank each other on your posts and no one else does.

[michelle23]

We have no issues right now and in general our relationship is good and always has been. That does not mean i think we wont have difficult times or that i think it will always be perfect.

I understand that not everyone has confidence but learning to love yourself for who you are and building confidence in a healthy way is surely better than trying to change everything about yourself?

My bf doesnt watch porn and its not bcoz i dont want him to. Iv already said numerous times it wouldnt bother me but i have no interest in it personally. I prefer to use my imagination and i presume he does too since he has no interest in it.

I didnt make this thread about addiction. I said the women who complain about it are probably complaining because it has gotten so bad that he cant perform sexually without it. I have never heard a woman complain unless it has become an obsession and i was listing the examples of things it can and does lead to occasionally.

And as far as i no-tassy came on this site in the past 7days. I have gotten plenty of positive feedback from others on here since then and before that.

[michelle23]

Also there are plenty of other problems in tassys relationship-not just porn. They were clearly not compatable and plenty of people recommended she dump him. You on the other hand made a big deal out of the fact that she doesnt like the fact he watches porn but he also smokes pot, has been selfish and inconsiderate, has created a lot of stress and upset over a long period of time and you tell her there is nothing wrong with her relationship-that its all in her head coz shes insecure...

[rob1984]

for one, you have no idea what your bf does alone.

[quote]I didnt make this thread about addiction. I said the women who complain about it are probably complaining because it has gotten so bad that he cant perform sexually without it. I have never heard a woman complain unless it has become an obsession and i was listing the examples of things it can and does lead to occasionally.[\quote]

thats talking about addiction. look i could careless, however do not impose your views on others, and say they are wrong. everyone is different, you do not know what you bf does alone, he does have skeletons in his closet.

my wife watches porn and she hid it from me so I do not feel insecure she is getting off on something else.. I had no issue with it, she could have told me, but I understand its a white lie, where it holds no bearing on our relationship.. I feel your bf may be doing the same.

[rob1984]

smoking pot is honestly nothing, unless it consumes his entire paycheck and has no money for bills, no different then occasionally drinking. About being selfish... everyone is selfish.. she just needs to communicate with him, the fact that she is so unhappy and still with him, shows 1. its no big deal and there's more to it, or 2. she is dependent on him and needs him to live.

[tassy]

Wow you have everyones relationships all figured out, well done to you!!!!

Clearly you are going to defend dope and porn cos they seem to be your fav past times, they are both used to escape from reality, thought everything was all under control in your relationship why the need for escapes? But each to their own.

However I will say that i wouldnt want a man who has to gain confidence and/or an understanding of what a real woman wants in bed from watching porn. IMO That is insane!!! Does watching actions flims make feel like superman too? lmao
Thats like saying women watch soapies and chick flicks to learn how life is meant to be lol ............... Its not real, just acting, porn is usually all about man controling woman and her making fake noises to PRETEND she is enjoying it. Are you happy with your partners enjoyment noises? did she learn how to fake them while watching porn too? Whatever floats your boat.

I agree with some of Michelle's advice and some I do not at all and from reading through other posts i can see she feels the same about my advice also, however we dont feel the need to tell the over that they are WRONG, cos it is each to their own and that is how simple it is matey, all your 'thankyous' come from the same porn watching diehards who have to defend it's honour it's a joke, Michelle has said time and time again she doesnt dislike porn and it is her partner who chooses not to watch it, but oh no that is not read or acknowledged here she has to be wrong about that too, it's a bloody joke in here sometimes and to think so many come here for help and it looks like others just come here to put down and disrespect anyone who doesnt agree with their opinions.

[rob1984]

lol, i do not smoke pot, but i did as a teenager, no one said watching porn is to interpret what a woman is looking for in bed, lol, do you drink at all. maybe some wine or anything ? but since its legal, its not bad for you. pot is the devil right.. ppl watch porn for the fake noises and how we want to have sex. show me where I or anyone has mentioned this. Again its your own insecurities that brought up the comments above. Woman now a days are smarter.. they play those being controlled roles cause they get paid for it.. just like some girls that strip and pay for college.. are they bad people.. no I think they are smart. I'll show my boobs and some guy will give me money,

I see you have very conservative views, hence why you have a hard time understanding everyone else, same as michelle. Keep living in your fantasy.

[VincenzoG91]

Michelle and Tassy, you should post pictures of yourselves, so Rob has something to, um, work with.

[HeartIsAching]

Dude, you owe me a new monitor. I just sprayed coffee all over it.

[rob1984]

lol, that was awesome

[IndiReloaded]

That's normal, except for the porn not exciting you. At 22 I was waxing the carrot at least 2 to 3 times a day. Life was just something that accidentally happened between masturbation periods.

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[IndiReloaded]

ffs what a witch hunt. small minded bored people.

Michelle - if you hate your BF using porn, I couldn't give less of a shit. Neither should anyone else. You feel what you feel. Just saying.

Personally, porn is just 'meh'. If a man wants it, fine, but why when he's got a hot, perfectly willing woman? Variety? Hell, get creative Cowboy.

[michelle23]

Lol this argument is pointless and ridiculous since your clearly going to ignore everything i say and presume you no me and my bf.

[michelle23]

Indireloaded this has nothing to do with me or my bf. He doesnt watch it but i wouldnt give a toss if he did. People on here are ignoring the fact that i pointed that out numerous times but are still getting out the pitchforks because i pointed out some of the reasons it bothers some women