You believe in something but your friend refuses to aknowledge the issue? Here's the story:
My friend Mary is getting married in July, she's chinese in fact she's a chinese little snob. By that I mean she thinks that all chinese people are better than anyone else. Says things like: "really chinese people would never...". Anyways chinese people eat this expensive ass shark fin soup (upwards of $100 a bowl). The demand for this soup is huge, it's mostly a status thing NOT a cultural thing.
Anyways myself, my guy and one of our mutual very good friends (Anne) believe strongly that shark fining is a very dangerous practice. Let me explain just a little. Shark finning is done illegally, it is done in mass amounts with no regulation, it fetches such an enourmous price the appeal to kill is like nothing else. Sharks are fished regardless of species the fins are cut from it's body while the shark is still alive struggling to breathe, and the full body is thrown back into the water- alive. The shark meat is never used, the demand is solely for the fins. The shark dies not being able to swim or breathe (sharks need to swim to pass water through their gills in order to breathe). Anyways it is a cruel heartless practice. And due to no regulations and over fishing sharks (all species) are on the verge of extinction- fact. Shark fin actually has no taste, it also does not have any dreamed up health benefits. It is purely served as status. Okay, so obvioulsy we are DEAD SET against shark fin soup.
So my friend Anne, tries to get Mary to reconsider serving this soup she points out things like I do. Mary argues that there are "other ways to be green". Everyone would like Mary to watch the movie sharkwater (as this is the movie that did us in...) and then to really think about this issue. Mary has refused to watch the movie and claims that she's a "green" person in other ways. K, that's good but that's not the point- the point is with soup served the way she serves it is the very reason sharks may vanish from the face of the earth.
So what do you do when a good friend is arogant and refuses to do consider/ reconsider an issue that you think is very important? Does it change the dynamic of your friendship? Anne has admitted that her frienship with Mary might change as the issue is such a big one she doesn't know how to get past these feelings of resentment. In a way I agree with Anne.
If my friend came to me with a issue about something like this and gave me real facts, I honestly DO think that I would be able to consider an alternative.
Thoughs?