shouldnt a man wan to work hard to get a woman off??

[enjungrl]

i know this sounds selfish but if men think about sex more than women and want it more often shouldnt they also not mind working for it. any guy i've ever been initimate with wanted to make me scream. they would get turned on my seeing me turned on.
then i would get all crazy and return the favor!
was i just spoiled or is this the norm??
my current guy says i should be able to get myself worked up.
now i'm not saying i dont like pleasing him. but damn why should i do all the work while he lays back and enjoys the show.
i like to take control sometimes but i also like a guy that know what he wants, one that wont quit till im staisfied.
my guy will do wonders this with his hands. but not with this magic stick.
what the deal?
maybe i just dont do it for him??
i wish he would be honest!

[vashti]

Either he isn't capable of controlling his orgasm while having sex, or he's a lazy lover. Personally, I'd find another one.

[the_robot]

I think HE is spoiled.

[twinrexes]

You're right, most guys will work for it. And you're going to get really frustrated with his behavior. Could be a deal breaker.

[doppelgaenger]

Try being more dominant in bed.

[Emerald_Dreams]

OP sounds like she has some sexual entitlement to me. She sounds like she's a "dead fish" type of girl in bed - just lays there and receives. No thanks.

[SelflessnHumble]

i know this sounds selfish but if men think about sex more than women and want it more often shouldnt they also not mind working for it. any guy i've ever been initimate with wanted to make me scream. they would get turned on my seeing me turned on. then i would get all crazy and return the favor!
was i just spoiled or is this the norm??

It is selfish if you are only focusing on your needs. Had you respected his stance on the subject: you can then compromise.
There is no right or wrong view here...I identify with all you just said.

my current guy says i should be able to get myself worked up.

When I hear him say that, I hear: "I have no farking clue how to get a woman hot (before penetration) so
I think I will put it back on the girl, so I can avoid being blamed for a subpar sexual experience." <-----Sounds like BS to me.

now i'm not saying i dont like pleasing him. but damn why should i do all the work while he lays back and enjoys the show. i like to take control sometimes but i also like a guy that know what he wants, one that wont quit till im staisfied. my guy will do wonders this with his hands. but not with this magic stick.
what the deal? maybe i just dont do it for him?? i wish he would be honest!

He is being honest with you!!!
He feels you (are not equal to him) and must therefore do everything first, in order for him to reciprocate.
He has issues with his own sexuality and even worse is unwilling to address your concerns to better your sexual relationship.

Many men just suck in bed, and don't know a nut from a screw!
If you show him and involve him: he may learn without getting his ego bruised.
If he cannot: you will either have to STFU, be submissive OR find a man who:

-identifies your needs
-makes the effort to meet those needs
-has a #1 goal of getting you dripping wet, squirting with orgasmic big bangs of "DAMN!" -God himself would envy!

You two don't sound a match: and physical pleasure (especially with via a penis) is paramount for a woman's sexual satisfaction...IN the end: it's your call: but remember there is no right or wrong: only different views of opinion(s)

[girl68]

Eff that I'd dump him and never look back. Damn rights on sexual entitlement! Please me... and by golly god will you bust your nuts like there is no tomorrow. I will never, ever settle for a man who doesn't put 100% effort into getting me off, and he will never ever be under appreciated by my reciprocation.

[Emerald_Dreams]

I prefer equal relationships, not coercive ones.

[doppelgaenger]

Eff that I'd dump him and never look back. Damn rights on sexual entitlement! Please me... and by golly god will you bust your nuts like there is no tomorrow. I will never, ever settle for a man who doesn't put 100% effort into getting me off, and he will never ever be under appreciated by my reciprocation.

Wait until you're a few months into your marriage, bahahaha.

[girl68]

^ I know, I know married couples don't bone right. Riiight... Stupid.

[doppelgaenger]

Chill the fück out. It was a bit of light humor... I wish I didn't know that my parents still fück. Unfortunately, before I headed back home, my mother mentioned that she was going to the doctor to get her BC shot... yuck!

[enjungrl]

I'm not a dead fish. I think it should be equal and that u should enjoy pleasuring each other. We should be rolling over each other each trying to out do the other. But he refuses to be on top!

[curly1118]

Hah. Try talking to him about it.

[enjungrl]

Thanks for the advice. We tried talking about it and although he initially blamed me he did try to be on top the last time we were intimate but his back got all cramped up so we switched. I guess he just can't perform that often. I love him so ill be pacient