I want to get your opinion on something, and I'll provide a scenario to illustrate.
My boyfriend told me he wanted to go to a football game (a pro game) and asked if I'd be interested in attending. Note: I have no interest in football whatsoever. Any time I've gone to a football game it's been mostly for the social aspect. I enjoy food and alcohol pre-game, and I like the colorguard/cheerleaders/band. That's about it. If left to my own devices, I'd never go to a football game or watch it on TV (usually not even in the Super Bowl unless the commercials are REALLY good) on my own or even consider inviting someone to see a game with me. However, my boyfriend was interested in a game, so I said "Sure." Fast forward a week, and he tells me, "Games are $50 each." Because I am used to paying for my own things in our relationship, I assumed this would mean I'd be paying $50 for my own ticket. My friends, however, tell me this is "stingy" of my boyfriend for expecting me to pay $50 for a game I'd never see without him and that he invited me to. While I would PREFER my boyfriend to pay for my ticket, this is pretty typical of our relationship (he invites me to something, and we each pay our own way). Mind you, there are lots of other things I'd rather spend $50 on; I'm simply going to this game for my boyfriend's benefit. Also - I rarely invite him to activities that he'd not want to go to otherwise (I would never invite him to the ballet, for example, then ask him to pay $50 for a ballet ticket!). We are also going as a double date to the game, and I am assuming the other guy is going to pay for his girlfriend's ticket, even though she does like football.
I can definitely see my friend's point (the friend is a guy btw!) that my boyfriend is "stingy," but I am used to this. What do you think - is my boyfriend being stingy? Am I stupid not to expect him to pay since he invited me and I'd otherwise never go? Like I said, this is very typical of our relationship. Whenever we go out, we almost always go dutch - even if he invited me to the event, movie, whatever. Note: He makes almost twice as much as I do! Last time I hinted that he might be stingy, he said I should find a "sugar daddy"! It was really hurtful because we've been dating over 2 years, and I typically split the bill, even though I make half as much as he does. All my friends (male and female) think he's stingy.