Why does my brother act in these ways?not a love question but maybe you can help..

[grantqw]

even in our 30's he still wants to try to tell me what to do,never really compliments me for anything good i've done,doesn't even take note of what i've accomplish and orovercome.I just freaking hate his guts at times.I wonder if he knows it.He comes acros these ways and wonders why i don't visit his kids etc...and or see him at family functions.What is his deal?i can understand it if you are teens,but even up to now he is like this.He has acted really supportive of me in some ways,but it's those other ways he acts that really makes me hate his *** sometimes.Do you think he knows it..?he also tries to tel;l me what to do(in an annoying way)Last time i saw him i just hugged him and the didn't talk to him much.........We are all artists so i thought we would have common bond,but even at our age v32(me) and he's 37 it's like he wants to feel better and does stupid actions(ones that can make me go off)wrongly He's acts like a piece of crap....even my brother of 12 years older gets along better with me and is MUCH more supportive.Is my older brother delusional?the middle one i'm complaining about..I'm fit and go to the gym and he's fat(he's constantly got problems with his health because he doesn't take care of himself or his diet), so i wonder if that has something to do.Grown freaking men and he still acts like this...why can't he just admit that he has shortcomings and just can't measure up instead of being a moron about things?


I even went off to him to his face one time,and he still has the nerve?

[the beast in me]

the first thing i noticed is that you asked if he knows what he's doing. which means you haven't TOLD him. once you tell him you'll know for sure that he knows and you can go from there. if you once went off on him, then tell him again and go from there. i do'nt know what to tell you if he isn't willing to have an open discussion about it, though.

[Lite]

So stop talking to him. You told him how you feel, he persists, just stop talking to him.

Don't bother.