So I had an awkward convo on the phone with my boyfriend...it all started when last night when he asked me if I wanted to go to noodles and company tomorrow. He was on the way out the door when he asked so he just said that he'd call me after work the next day. Well today, when we were texting I told him that we could only go to noodles & co at 730 because I had made prior plans. So then he said that He had left over food in the fridge and that we should just do it tomorrow. soo fast foward to tonight..its the hills season finale, and I made plans to watch it. My bf texts me after he gets off work and asks if I wanted to go out tonight..I told him i had made plans to watch the hills, but that the epsiode starts at 10 and it would be over at 1030. he then told me to call him after it was over. then he texted me again and said that he wanted to know if i wanted to drink before it started and I told him that there were reruns before it started and then i told him that it really isnt over until 1130 bc they are having a live reunion special after the episode. So we stop texting and then once it was over I called him like he told me too...it was a really awkward convo. He was either really tired or didnt wanna talk to me or thats what I think...and when its awkward I try to make things un awkward as possible..so I go "well im just calling cuz you told me to after it was over" and he said "yah im going to bed soon" and then it was silent and I just wanted to get off the phone so I asked him if I wanted to do noodles tomorrow...the thing is that I did that on impulse and now I feel like because I made plans to watch the hills he was mad that i'd rather watch that then go hang out with him so when I called him I feel like he was testing me to see if I would make some sort of initiation to hang out and i impulsively asked if I wanted to do noodles tomorrow, but I really dont wanna go. I mean I do, but Im not going to say anything about it unless he does first tomorrow.
The reason why I think this is because my boyfriend tries to take control and I feel like he tests me a lot and I feel that hes too insecure to become vulnerable So tonight I feel like since I went ahead and made plans after he said earlier today he wanted to do noodles tomorrow, he was testing me to see if I would chase back (and thats by asking him to hang out) so he could have control again.
what do u all think?
I guess the only way to get control back is to wait and see if tomorrow he really wants to go eat at noodles & co and if he doesnt mention anything about it not saying anything and to see if wants to hang out with me.