Ex was supposed to come and pick his things.. never showed up. What to do now?

[sunshine suki]

Hi everyone.. Long story short:

After a one year smooth relationship (in which I gave my heart and soul), my boyfriend called it quit because I had 'the talk' with him on commitment. Bummer!

After a pretty emotional break up, he asked for us to stay friends and I said yes.
Eventhough I accepted the friendship request, I went NC from day one after the break up.
I really had no interest in talking with him or seeing him. I just needed to heal and get rational.

During a month, he called me a couple of times and ask me to hang out with him, which I refused, it was way too soon. He really was excited about this 'friend' thing but I was never contacting him. It seemed to me that it was just a mean to string me along and get the freedom and me at the same time.

The last call I received was this week, around 11 p.m. and he suggested to come at my place to pick his things up. I said that he absolutely could pick his things up, but that it was too late that day and that he could come during the week-end. During this call, I also told him that I didn't want to remain friends with him even though I've previously accepted his friendship when we broke up. I saw that it was not working because I needed to heal. He seemed pretty disappointed and asked if we could be friends in the future.. I said I didn't know.

He agreed on picking up his things this week-end and ultimately, he never called or showed up. I don't get why and what should I do next...

Thanks for your help!

[Archie]

He`s leaving the stuff so that he`d have a reason to come back and to not let you forget about him. One day he`ll decide to show up and ruin all your mood, that`s one, and two - to try and fix things.
I`d suggest you call him, right now to pick his shit up and don`t contact him ever again, erase him from memory. Otherwise he`ll always keep coming back, cause that`s how the left-behind stuff works. Or just throw the stuff out, you don`t need it, his own fault for leaving it behind.

[SwampDonkey47]

I agree with Archie, he's using the stuff as an excuse to keep in touch with you. Just dump it, if you aren't together it's nothing to do with him anymore.

[Petit Papillon]

Put it in front of your doors and inform him about it. Short sms like " Yo, your stuff are in front of my doors if you want them back. bye" . If he won't pick it up, we all can assume he doesn't give a crap so it also will be whatever if some homeless people find some interessting things for them And you'll do something good!