Hi, I'm in High School. I'm 16 now, so is she.
We started going out when we were 15.
It's been 9 months, and we had issues, but only for about a month and a half .
We were ridiculously happy for the first 5.
I did smother her time to time, I nagged about things she didn't do, because I was worried and it was self-detrimental to her.
I insulted her parents to her face when she was really mad at them, because i was mad that they hurt her.
During a certain period of about a month, I was in a terrible wreck. School work was terrible, house troubles, everything was terrible, and I was going nuts. She said I would get anger tantrums over anything that didn't go my way.
Summer came, and all the stress was gone. We worked it out, and she was overjoyed to see me okay again.
She loved that I was back, and that things were normal again.
One day, she went on a 3 day vacation, and when she got back, she was different.
She would say that, she wants to fix herself, she wants to become somebody else,
she said she needs to change, a change in her life.
A few days later, she told me,
"We are not going to work"
The words stabbed my heart completely.
Please consider, I have only told you the bad times, but
It was mostly good times. We'd sing together, she LOVES my singing. She still does.
We'd talk about anything, we'd share everything, she told me everything that went on in her life
We kissed, and when we were alone, she told me that nothing else felt like it mattered, and that we'd love each other forever.
She was so sure she loved me, then
after a few days after that vacation, she said. "We are not going to work"
She took the vacation and the time to think about things, and she said this was one of her decisions.
She said she can't have a boyfriend rightn ow, because she doesn't have the energy to, and she can't handle one and she doesn't need one right now. She said she needs to FIND HERSELF.
She told me, she has a sliver of hope for us. She said she went into thi srelationship not really knowing who she was, and said she'd like to know now.
She wants me to be her close friend, and at first i didn't believe it, and didn't contacther because she wanted to be alone.
But I later I told her i will be here for her as her best friend, and she almost cried in joy.
Please ask more questions, and I will elaborate.
But Please, when she finds herself, wil lshe come back? I have no idea what to think of this situation, and I really need help.
She knows I've been here for her all the time.
She knows she loved me.
She said the feeling isn't the same anymore.
Please somebody, help me figure this out, and what I can do .
thank you.
P.S. We are both Asian, I have the better grades, we have similar interests, we never ever fought except for once or twice,
She's really really really nice, she never lies, and she loves to have fun.
^ Please, don't doubt what I said, please give me advice , considering the things above are facts.
Please tell me possibilities and wha tI an do.
PLEASE HELP ME!!!