Originally Posted by
michelle23
He is having an emotional affair. You need to end your relationship. He doesn't love or respect you enough to stop talking to her even though he knows how much this hurts you. He should be putting you first and hes not.
Hes lying to himself saying that they are "just friends" and telling himself that its all innocent but its not. The reality is that they have feelings for each other and they are getting way too close for "friendship".
It is your choice what you want to do.
If he hasnt crossed the line into physical cheating yet then you may be able to save your relationship if you want to.
You can leave him, pack up your stuff and move out before he gets home and just leave a note saying "I didnt want to give you an ultimatum so I made the choice for you. Instead of forcing you to chose between me and her-I have decided to leave as you know how much this breaks my heart but you still talk to her so goodbye". Cut all contact with him, ignore him and see what happens. If he really loves you-he will fight to get you back and work his ass off to prove to you that you mean 100times more and he will agree to stop talking to her. Then you can say "I will come back IF we get relationship counselling".
On the other hand-if he just lets you go without a fight and runs straight to her-you will know for sure that your suspicions have been correct all along and your not crazy.
If you cannot forgive him for emotionally cheating on you:
Then just say goodbye. Focus on healing and look after yourself
You cant sit around and just allow him to get closer and closer to her until he actually physically cheats or leaves you for her and that is exactly what will happen if you dont act now. Take control of the situation.
If I were you I would just leave him, get over him and get on with my life. He has crossed a line and he doesnt love or respect you enough to even consider how this makes you feel. He is showing you how selfish he is and that his new best friend is more important than you. You can do better than that